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Pamela, LCSW, Psychotherapist/MSW
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Experience:  25 years of experience in private practice and inpatient psychiatry;licensed in two states
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How can i move on after a 26yrs of being together?and he

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how can i move on after a 26yrs of being together?and he will be getting married this month.the pain i am felling.i just cannot described.please what can i do to help ease the pain.most of all the day that he will be getting married.what and where can i go to not think about it.please help. thank you
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Pamela, LCSW replied 6 years ago.
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I am sorry to hear that you are in such pain. The best thing that you can do on that day is something that you love and that makes you feel good. It may be a special place or being with good friends that make you laugh. It would be good to stay busy and keep your day structured .
A change of scenery may be a good idea, provided it is a place that the two of you have not been together. This is not a good day for reflecting or processing your sadness about the relationship. You can continue your grief work after this day is behind you.
You may find some relief when it is finally over. If you find that the grief and pain continue to be unbearable, then you may want to get some support in the form of psychotherapy to help you in processing this and finding ways to move on when you are ready.
A loss like this can feel like a death and you should be allowed the same time to grieve and mourn as bereaved people are given.

I hope this helps and wish you the best in getting through the day.

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