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I have wanted to look like a woman all my life but I know I don't want to be one. I love to dress as a woman wheneverer possible and I'm told by complete strangers when I'm out daytime and nightime how lovely I look. I get 'read' a lot but never get adverse reactions as I try to be as unnoticable as possible and am quite feminine and in my experience this is a big help when you are acting the role. When I'm dressed I feel liberated and extremely at ease with myself, moreso than I ever am when I am dressed male. My female persona is a lot softer and more gentle too. I can actually feel my blood pressure go down when I am in feminine mode.
I would like hips more than boobs, but a small b cup breast would be nice along with the softer skin and nails growing quicker too. I dont like male clothing but I adore female clothing. I am 49 now and time is running out for me. It's not a masturbation thing as that disappeared when I was mid 20. If it helps I am bisexual.
Submitted: 8 years ago.Category: Mental Health
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Mental Health Professional: Dr. Rossi, Psychotherapist replied 8 years ago
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Good Afternoon,

There is indeed a difference between those individuals who want to live as a women (having gender issues and some resort to sex change operations )and others who cross dress as a form of a fetish (transvestism)

What would you like to do?

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Customer reply replied 8 years ago
I do not accept your answer as worth paying for as I already know the difference between transvertites and trangendered.
Mental Health Professional: Dr. Rossi, Psychotherapist replied 8 years ago
You did not clarify what is it you wanted in my initial answer. I'm opting out. Good luck.
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Mental Health Professional: Selah R, M.S. LPC, Therapist replied 8 years ago
Selah R, M.S. LPC
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Maybe part of your question got cut off because it doesn't seem to contain anything but narrative. So that makes it difficult for us to know what you're looking for.

You describe being comfortable with your sexual orientation (bisexuality) and with being a female persona. You also state that you do not want a sex change. But you say you are running out of time. Time for what?

How is this causing problems in your life? Is it hurting your relationships, your job, your self-esteem? Are you losing chunks of time that you can't remember? Are you afraid that you're going "crazy"?

If it isn't causing a problem in your life, what is the fear, the sense of urgency, that time is running out, about?

Sincerely,
Selah
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