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i am rikki lynn and i have a 12 and 13 year old they pick fuse and i have grandma seizures and a lot of stress my husband has a pacemaker and i dont belive in hiting or any kind of abuse so can u please help me thank you
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Mental Health Professional: Selah R, M.S. LPC, Therapist replied 8 years ago
Selah R, M.S. LPC
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Thank you for trusting JustAnswer with your important question.

It sounds like you may benefit from finding a counselor who can help you learn how to better cope with stress, and who can help you learn some new parenting skills. Your kids are reaching difficult ages where they will push your buttons and push the boundaries of rules. This is not a fun time as a parent!

There are parenting courses you can take through self-study such as the Total Transformation (http://www.thetotaltransformation.com/) and Parenting through Love and Logic (http://www.loveandlogic.com/). I have seen great results with parents using these programs, as long as both parents agree to use the same rules/techniques being taught. Whenever one parent is doing something totally opposite from the other parents, kids will use that loophole to manipulate the situation, causing everyone more stress.

Depending on your income and insurance situation, you may qualify for free or very low cost family counseling. Dial 211 from your local phone line (not cell phone) and you should be connected to a help desk that can tell you what programs are available in your area. But you and your husband are both facing serious illness issues that do not do well under chronic stress, so please seek help from professionals who can help make this easier psychologically and physically for you both.

There is no shame in asking for help. None of us were given the "How to raise perfect children" gene. And children these days face much more pressure to do things like alcohol, drugs, sex, and violence, causing even the best of parents to feel lost at times.

Sincerely,
Selah
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