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Over 10 years ago I worked with a colleague who was a real

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Over 10 years ago I worked with a colleague who was a real bully towards me. What angers me is that I did not stand up to this guy enough. In the end I totally lost it with him and really made a threat to expose his behavior and it scared him enough that the bullying stopped. It is strange therefor that I still, almost on a daily basis, relive the negative experiences and end up getting really worked up about it. It is as if part of me would like to go back to that situation and deal with him early on and really shake him up. I know that this is all negative - how do I stop myself from reliving this this argument and confrontation day after day?


As your behavior points out this individual only truly has power over you when you give it to him. Why wait till he pushes your buttons until you stand up to him. The best approach would not be to empower him, but to really have it out and lay out the ground rules, violation of which will cause you to cause you to ignore him totally. Does this person have the power to preclude you to ignore him as this is what it will probably come to as he will not apparently change his behavior meaning the only one who can change the behavioral interchange is you and this will free you up. Best wishes and good luck.


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