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I believe my daughter has sociopath tendensies should i be

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i believe my daughter has sociopath tendensies should i be concerned with her having my grandbaby.as i am seriously considering taking her to court for temporary custody till she gets help
Submitted: 7 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Dr. Steve replied 7 years ago.

Greetings:

You're in a really tough spot because on the one hand, you have a fair idea that your daughter's lifestyle is going to be bad for your grand-daughter - either directly (i.e., physical violence) or indirectly (i.e., being around bad things/bad people will ultimately traumatize the girl, and will end badly for her). Unfortunately, if your daughter really is a true sociopath, she will be able to lie, cheat, and manipulate to get her needs met. I said that to say this: If she (daughter) does not want to give you custody of the child, then you are going to have to convince a court that your daughter is too unfit of a mother to have ANY contact with her daughter, and that will be a difficult maneuver, given your daughter's tendency to outright deny the truth and to make you look like the bad guy (all rules are off when you deal with a sociopath). Then, you will be labeled as the enemy by your daughter, and she may either act out aggressively toward you or leave and never see you (and you not see your grand-daughter) ever again.

Tough spot, but I I will answer your question more directly in this way: If you truly feel your grand-daughter is in danger because of how poorly your daughter is behaving, then you should do whatever you can to separate them. There are few things that will mess with a kid's head like having an unstable, possibly criminal, parent who has poor boundaries and hangs out with bad people. I like that you will structure your custody to be contingent upon your daughter receiving treatment - this may give you more of a leg to stand on in court.

My immediate advice is to consult an attorney who can give you a more concrete answer as to how to proceed through the legal system. Too, a psychologist to evaluate your daughter and grand-daughter may ultimately be necessary, but an attorney is the clear first step. If you are satisfied with the response, please hit "Accept." That is the only way i can receive credit for my answer. Thanks-

Dr. Steve

Customer: replied 7 years ago.
she is very manipulative as she had my whole family believing everthing she would say and caused turmoil in my family for years as now they are finally coming to grips with the seriousness of her problems we are finally starting to stick together on things every now and then she will start playing everyone against one another again but in the end everyone starts to see what she is doing. she li8es so much everyone says if her mouth is moving she is lying she steals so much my mother hides her pocketbook in her dryer when she comes over she cant hold on to a job jumps guy to guy drops the baby off with sitters constantly so she can go clubbing babys bed never has sheets on it found curdled bottles in bed 4 of them does this sound like a socio[ath or dissassociative dissorder she was diagnosed with dissassociative dissorder when she was 16 she is now 22 she also just took off to north carolina from ohio with a guy she met online 4 days prtor with out telling me she was leaving i found out from other people
Customer: replied 7 years ago.
she is very manipulative as she had my whole family believing everthing she would say and caused turmoil in my family for years as now they are finally coming to grips with the seriousness of her problems we are finally starting to stick together on things every now and then she will start playing everyone against one another again but in the end everyone starts to see what she is doing. she li8es so much everyone says if her mouth is moving she is lying she steals so much my mother hides her pocketbook in her dryer when she comes over she cant hold on to a job jumps guy to guy drops the baby off with sitters constantly so she can go clubbing babys bed never has sheets on it found curdled bottles in bed 4 of them does this sound like a socio[ath or dissassociative dissorder she was diagnosed with dissassociative dissorder when she was 16 she is now 22 she also just took off to north carolina from ohio with a guy she met online 4 days prtor with out telling me she was leaving i found out from other people .also how likely is itthat my grandbaby could inherit these same traits from my daughter is this something that is in genetics cause my daughters dad had a lot of these traits also
Expert:  Dr. Steve replied 7 years ago.

Hello again:

Okay, there is a lot of energy here... but to answer your questions: If your daughter was diagnosed with a dissociative disorder when she was younger, I would bet that she was sexually or physically abused (maybe both?). Kids don't learn to "check out" unless they are placed under enormous stress - which could have also led to her sociopathic tendencies.

And the answer to your final question is that these traits are not inborn... rather, they are "learned" from the environment around them. Somewhere along the way, your daughter learned to divorce herself from empathy in order to spare herself pain - and the results are listed in your last post. Your grand-daughter was not be born with these traits, but certainly can pick them up if she is exposed to trauma and people who do not develop her sense of compassion or conscience.

I wish you well in these circumstances.

Dr. Steve

Customer: replied 7 years ago.
is it possible to have not been sexually abused ir physically abused to have one of these diiorders
Expert:  Dr. Steve replied 7 years ago.

Wow... great question. A kiddo would not dissociate unless there is some sort of trauma. That sort of escape is typically reserved for those who are living through something that requires them to "check out." Perhaps not physical or sexual abuse (true), but it may be parental discord, an active addict of alcoholic in the home... something that is worthy of escaping - even if only in the mind. Too, growing up without empathy or conscience is uniquely the result of trauma as well.

Dr. Steve

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