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I have been dating a man that I believe may have some

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I have been dating a man that I believe may have some problems. Last night over dinner his behavior abruptly changed when he saw an individual come into the restaurant. He stated the guy was a drug dealer and that he wanted to "f**k" the guys girlfriend. This ensued an argument. That's not all....when we pulled up to his house, he was acting paranoid about a guy that walked past the car. He was very aggitated and wanted to go beat him up. I have strong feelings for this guy but I'm not sure how to handle the strange behavior. He apologized later. Also, I should mention he's currently in trouble with the law for beating up someone. I feel sorry for him and I know he loves me and needs my support, but am I in over my head?


This demonstration of bizarre assaultive behavior, not just thinking, but as you report is an actual attack. You may be emotionally attached, but you have been given numerous warnings that this is a dangerous individual. The likelihood is that if you continue this relation a time will come when his aggression is directed toward you. I would strongly urge that you carefully break it off before you are physically assaulted. Again if you break it off as I suggest be careful how you do it so you do not set him off against you.

Best wishes and good luck


Ralph LMHC

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