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I am always obsessing about a much younger woman and want to

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i am always obsessing about a much younger woman and want to know who she texts and what she says.i also have a huge curiosity about her underwear. why is that?
Submitted: 7 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Dr. Rossi replied 7 years ago.

Good Morning,

If you do not believe that you're interested in her romantically, the behavior may be a distraction (a sort of a defense mechanism) of not wanting to deal with other things such as burden from work, relationships, finances, etc.

Focusing on the underwear sounds like a fetish.

Customer: replied 7 years ago.
no not interested in a relationship with this girl.but still have a massive urge to know whats going on in her life especially with her sex habits and there anything i could read to learn more about the area of it been a defence mechanism. i have had two previous people i obsessed about but this dissappered mainly because i wasnt in their company or in contact with them. in both of these cases there was a lot of fantasy masturbstion. but thankfully not in this present case. could this obsession take me into deeper more dangerous water. i certainly dont want that to happen. because i am a sex and love addict ( attending a support group) i think that situtation could happen very easly. thank you for your first reply. Brian
Expert:  Dr. Rossi replied 7 years ago.
I don't know about the obsession taking you to deeper waters unless you think of stalking her. Defenses (check # 7 and 9 but feel free to explore the other as well)
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