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My husband CONSTANTLY lies. He will lie, lie to cover up the

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My husband CONSTANTLY lies. He will lie, lie to cover up the original lie, and after things start coming to the surface, even lie when he is 'coming clean' about the original lie!

He always has excuses for his lies, anything from 'i thought you'd over-react' to 'i was trying to surprise you', and my personal favorite 'i didn't mean to lie'. There is also the occasional blaming of others, like someone else 'made' him lie.

I'm going absolutely crazy. Even the smallest lies cause me to become angry now. I'm typically a very laid-back person, but this lying has gotten ridiculous; I just can't handle it.

There is no issue of infidelity in the sense of extra-marital relationships, mostly the lies revolve around issues arising with his ex (mother of his child). I am at a point where I can't handle the emotions I experience or constant worry of what he may be hiding.

I don't know if there is any hope for a change, if I'm able to regain trust in him, or just how to cope day to day.
lt;p>Hi,</p><p> </p><p>I understand that you are very frustrated. Trust is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. While it is true that you can never change anyone you should not have to "learn" to live with his lies. I would again let him know that his lies are effecting your marriage in a very detrimental way. I would suggest marriage therapy and even individual if he is willing to figure out why he is lying.    </p><p> </p><p>There are many reasons people lie. He could be hidding things from you. He could be trying to gain acceptance or making himself someone he is not to feel better about himself. He may be depressed and trying to hid it with lies. I have attached a really good article about being married to a liar. Please read it there is a lot of good information in it <a href="http://www.professorshouse.com/family/relationships/married-to-a-liar.aspx">http://www.professorshouse.com/family/relationships/married-to-a-liar.aspx</a> </p><p> </p><p>I hope this helps. Let me know if I can help with anything else.</p>
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