She has a very menial job, despite the fact that she is college educated and highly qualified for professional status. She did
work in Boston for a few years, professionally, and then felt that she needed to return home. She has lived both alone and with her parents, in alternating cycles. The family member in question was a step uncle of her mother's, only a few years older than the mother, who had been in trouble, apparently lived with his mother and a great deal of access to the individual in question. Parents have been trying to make daughter more independent, realize that she has problems but don't know what they are. Daughter is extremely fragile, emotionally, and even in her early forties is devastatingly afraid of disappointing her parents by having them know how "dirty" she is. I have used every way I can think of to convince her that nothing that happened was her fault but she steadfastly refuses to believe it. I think she needs serious help and I know that the parents would pay for the best if she were ever to tell them. I just happened to be there, waiting for a musical program that we were all to be in, when I walked into the kitchen area as she was having a series of panic
attacks and she told me, even though I think she is sorry, now, that she ever actually told anyone. I told her that the time must have been right for her to begin talking about it and to begin healing. She does call now, and e-mail me, but It's always about how much she hates herself, how "dirty" and "worthless" she is, etc. All of this has happened since Sunday afternoon -- just three days ago.