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I have been seeing my boyfriend (29yrs old) for the past 3

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I have been seeing my boyfriend (29yrs old) for the past 3 months, he has told me he loves me and has made plans for our future all in all a very healthy normal relationship, except last night we had our first argument and he told me that since he can remember he doesn't feel a lot of empathy towards people, specifically when someone close to him dies or a relationship breaks up he can be "over it" within 24hrs and that he doesn't "understand" peoples emotional reactions to these situations! He is a highly intelligent man, employed, travelled but this revelations doesn't sit well with me, I was upset and crying after he told me and he couldn't understand "what the big deal was" I've heard of aspergers could this be something similiar and what do you suggest to do!
Submitted: 8 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Dr Wu replied 8 years ago.


Asperger's syndrome is a mild form of autism. People with asperger's syndrome are usually loners who isolate themselves from others. Although their cognitive function is preserved, they often have speech problems and motor skill problems(clumsiness).

From a psychiatric perspective, antisocial personality disorder is associated with lack of emotions. They have a reasonable childhood but later grow up to lie, cheat, and feel little remorse about the impact of their actions on others. Some of them are able to lead successful lives as adults, however they often have difficult relationships with others.

There is no effective treatment for antisocial personality disorder. People with this disorder do not feel a need to work on their issues, and therefore are not motivated to participate in therapy.

Without meeting your boyfriend I cannot make a definitive diagnosis. However, if he indeed has antisocial personality disorder, then a long term relationship with him will be very challenging.

I hope this is helpful

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