Good morning I replied at 5:41, just minutes after you posted your question, with very detailed instructions for helping you to retrieve your Apple id and reset your password. I'm sorry that you didn't see it. I will post it again. Let's tackle one issue at a time. Let's get you back into your ipad, and then we will take a look at some things that could be causing the slowness.
I believe that phone call may be the fastest and easiest way to resolve your issue. I can walk you through the process and retrieve your id and password ***** you, if you'd like, but I will need to ask some questions, like your email address and security answers, etc.. It is against policy to post personal information here, but we can talk on the phone and ask and answer questions securely. A phone call is a Premium Service. I have sent an offer for this. It is completely optional and f you don't want to do that we can continue working together here.
here are the instructions that I posted for you previously regarding retreiving your Apple id and resetting your Apple password.
Reset Apple Password – if you don’t know your apple id
1. Let’s begin going to http://www.iforgot.apple.com
2. When the webpage opens enter the email address that you use to login to your ipad with. If you know your id, after entering it, proceed to STEP 3. If you do not know your id click on "FORGOT APPLE ID" then click next and enter your first name, last name, and email address. Your user id will be emailed to that address.
3. Now, choose to either have instructions sent to you via email, or choose "answer security questions" whichever you prefer. This should allow you to regain access to your account.