Thank you for your question. I look forward to working with you to provide you the information you are seeking for educational purposes only.
As you know from your career as a law enforcement officer, the business is a private business and as such they can refuse to allow anyone they choose onto their property for any reason except for based only on the age/race/sex/disability/national origin and the individual does not have rights to force the business to allow them onto the premises.
Had they arrested you for this, the case would be much different, since there must be (as you know as a retired officer) an "intent to permanently deprive" the business and in your situation there was no intent to permanently deprive, you asked for a little extra and instead of doing that they seem to have made a mistake they are trying to blame you for. Again, you are correct in they should have done something at least the next time that you came into the store. However, as far as legal action against them there are no actual provable damages suffered from them simply telling you not to come back into the store as you would have had they falsely arrested you claiming theft when none existed. They did not have you arrested likely because the deputies told them they could not prove you intended to steal anything, so at this point it is something that you have to deal with through corporate and because it is a verbal trespassing notice to you there is no actual record of it, the deputies who were there would have to enforce it by testifying in court they did tell you not to come back to the store.
At this point, I would suggest that you get this worked out from corporate with the company, since legally you do not have any grounds for civil action
right now as you cannot show actual damage based on what you said above.
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