I'm Lucy, and I'd be happy to answer your questions today. I'm sorry to hear about your situation.
Dating is different for everyone. If they're just spending time together, going out, and not having sexual relations, that's perfectly legal. But I also know that's not what dating means to most people. Any fondling or touching of your daughter or himself with the intent to arouse either of them is considered indecent liberties with a child, in violation of Kans. Stat., Section 21-5506. She is legally incapable of consenting because she is not 16 years old or older. That's a felony. If they've had sex, it's a level 3 person felony, which means he could go to jail for several years. The starting sentence for someone who is convicted, with no prior criminal record, is 82 months.
Call the police again. It may not be rape, but it is illegal. If the detective won't help you, go up the chain of command. If they're communicating online, you may be able to have the FBI charge him with luring a child for sexual purpose or a similar crime.
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