I'm going to make this as brief as I can. I live in Virginia. My mother has dementia. She began staying with me on weekends in Dec. 2014 and full time with me since Feb. 2015. I have lived in my dad's condo (now deceased and was willed to my mother) since he purchased it some 30 years ago. End of April, I had an emergency surgery, aortic aneurism and 6 days later was laid off from my job as bookkeeper for a Virginia Beach attorney. I have no reprimands or warnings of any kind in my file. I was a good and devoted employee
. I have one living, retired, married brother who refuses to help me with any kind of relief with my mother. She is not allowed to spend the night at their house and he has not been accommodating with relieving me for an hour or two during any day. My mother has progressively gotten worse and cannot be left alone. I confronted my brother with my dilemma on June 25 which caused a horrible argument. 4 days later, he removed my mothers funds from her bank to a different one with a power of attorney
he's had since 1992 (I also have one from 2004), is planning to have her ruled incompetent and he be awarded guardian to her estate. Supposedly I was informed that I could not be a guardian along with my brother because I filed bankruptcy in 2011. I have heard since that that is not necessarily true. We both met with a mediator that was recommended to try to agree on a contract
which we did. I consulted an attorney to give me advice on how the agreement was written. He in turn never got back to me; as he responded to me as I left his office when I asked what I owed, he responded with "nothing, you don't have any money". One of my best friends since the 8th grade, also my brothers 2nd ex-wife could not help me out due to conflict of interest
. I will be 63 years old in October. I must file for unemployment no later than Sept. 30. I have no access to paying someone to care for my mother with her own money and basically none of my own in order to be able to file for unemployment now nor go on interviews for the few jobs available. I also have big medical bills owed with no income coming in. I need to hire someone to care for my mother while I try to find a job. Can I hire someone and have it billed to my mother and sent to my brother so he has to pay it? He is not guardian yet but has control over her money. And if you can try to find me the best attorney that I need in Virginia Beach, I have another best friend since 1st grade that can help me with those funds if I know I have an attorney that will REALLY try and help me.