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LADYLAWYER : How long ago did your attorney file for divorce? Do you remember him saying anything about asking for pendente lite support?
LADYLAWYER : When your attorney is back and you see him again, you need to ask him to file for temporary support, also known as pendente lite support.
LADYLAWYER : You are entitled to this and it will at least keep you living in the manner you were accustomed to (or better) during your divorce proceeding.
LADYLAWYER : To answer your other question about suing for abuse, no, I am afraid you cannot do that. However, you CAN use the fact that he abused you to get a bigger divorce settlement.
LADYLAWYER : So it's kind of like being able to sue for divorce.
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JACUSTOMER-yerg9zaj- : In answer to your questions, he file in March or April & I wjent to my lawyer probably in the middle of April and she sent his lawyer my counter sue. I know that she also said his lawyer something saying that I needed spousal support so that's why he has been paying the mortgage & the bills but he really doesn't want to give me spending money, so I am going to call her tomorrow to make an appointment, but I guess what I really want to know, was BECAUSE I have been so emotionally abused & live in constant fear all the time of HOW HE IS GOING TO REACT TO THINGS( VIOLENT TEMPER & MUST ALWAYS BE IN TOTAL CONTROL OF EVERYTHING)HOW do I use this 2 get me wat I deserve?
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LADYLAWYER : Thank you for your additional comments. I had stepped out of the chat because I didn't see a reply within 15 minutes of responding to you and I had other customers waiting. Sorry for the delay.
LADYLAWYER : I am not really able to say how someone I don't know might react. But I can tell you that legally, he can whine, kick and scream all he wants to, but this doesn't change the fact that you are entitled to the temporary support and all your attorney needs to do is ask for it.
LADYLAWYER : once it is asked for, you will have a hearing on that request. His attorney can try to fight it, but the law allows you to get it.
LADYLAWYER : This is especially true if you have not been working during the marriage and he had.
LADYLAWYER : He will have to provide all his financial information to you and the court.
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LADYLAWYER : I did see where you said your ex hid money...your attorney can subpoena all the financial institutions you think he may have money at.
LADYLAWYER : And of course, if the judge thinks he is lying, he can be charged with perjury or held in contempt.
LADYLAWYER : So there are ways to make him show everything he has/makes.
LADYLAWYER : Did you have any further questions I can help you with at this time?
JACUSTOMER-yerg9zaj- : Well I am having a problem with my phone using this Sat, but I wanted to tell you I think you're amazing and thank you for your prompt response & I'm really tired I want to go to sleep but I have one more question for you, I told you he cancelled whatever credit cards I had with you the only one, & that he had several checking and savings accounts that I had no access to, I found a credit card number that he had given me to order him some things online and I used it the other day to buy stuff on eBay. I needed clothes and shoes and some health and beauty products. I also used the Victoria Secret card that he probably forgot to cancel. The only spending money that I have is what my parents send me & I try not to ask too much because I am so ashamed of all this. I'm allowed to buy things?? Do you see the place that I am in in my life that I am actually asking if I am allowed!! Oh my god I am so filled with sae and I am 55 years old
JACUSTOMER-yerg9zaj- : SHAME not sae or same hate autocorrect
JACUSTOMER-yerg9zaj- : Did u get my LAST ? i send to you on text messaging? & I also wanted to let you know that I will defnitely be using you some more, & I am fully aware that I have to pay for this & I don't have a problem with that, because I like this so much better than having to always call my attorney for evry little thing & again thank you very much and I hope you can answer my last question before I go to sleep, so I can go to sleep with a clear head
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LADYLAWYER : Yes, I can see it but for some reason, the site is not telling me that you're online or typing anything to me so I think you're offline. It must be a glitch in the system. Sorry!
LADYLAWYER : Yes, you can still buy things on the cards you have access to and that he has not cancelled. The judge may end up taking away access in the long run, but you aren't doing anything wrong in the meantime.
LADYLAWYER : I am so sorry you are having to go through all of this. You sound like a lovely person and I know your ex has drained you so much of so many things over the years. It is never easy starting over, but I am so proud of you for finally standing up to him, believing you are worth it, and wanting to get out from under his abusive, controlling oppression of you!
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JACUSTOMER-yerg9zaj- : Oh my god I am so happy you just told me that about the credit card! I feel so pathetic that I'm still under his thumb to some extent! I never used to be an insecure person at all :’( and thank you for telling me that you're proud of me, it means more than you will ever know to a person like me who is going to this! Thank you again you made me feel so much better and I will sleep good now & I will absolutely leave you an excellent review & you can rest assure I will be in touch with you very soon & again thank you so very much xo