please review this letter.
i understand it's not legally official - but it has an "if" "then" structure which makes me think i need to get a mental health attorney to balance out the zero-tolerance thing. like shouldn't my ex observe that i have ocd and block his own number and block his email??
i'm also interested in angling back at him so that HE pauses prior to escalating things. for one he's emotionally and psychologically antagonized me for months. he's bullied me and intimidated me to the point of me isolating in my apartment and not leaving for weeks. he's mistaken the entire situation believing that i'm obsessed with him -- literally untrue -- i have ocd. i basically freeze if there is uncertainty around me... the more and more uncertainty - the more i start checking everything - EVERYTHING. ocd gets to ramped up point where its involuntary. and the panic is very scary. i've been 100% transparent with david about my disorder and in fact, i told him to please block my calls and emails to remove a layer of anxiety (remember -- it cripples me, to create more checking and calling). we both felt this would be smart - we both have a very very critical need to be completely under the radar. strangely, three days into not speaking and separating he just unblocked everything. i wrote and called no response from him. --- THAT IS THE TRIGGER. so the ridiculous question "why aren't you blocking" -- can you believe it? -- it went on for 7 weeks. that's how bizarre ocd is. of course it's ridiculous, but from the ocd mindstate, the fear is that you're going to look like an idiot or mess something up -- so you urgently want to make sure everyone is clear from your impossibly horrible (perception of disaster) OCD behavior! david started acting emotionally strange too. it's a disaster . anyway below is the letter. by the way, i'm sorry to not proofread. understand it has to do with this desire not to get stuck in the rut of over analysis. have confidence i can grapple with complicated concepts -- i have an IQ that is super genius level (157) and graduated from harvard with high honors. but unfortunately, i also have insanely complicated mental disorders. i am very very kind person but completely terrified of mistakes and damage made by me -- imagined. hypothetical. etc.
Dear Ms. ____,
We have been retained by Mr. XXXXX to intercede on his behalf. Please direct all further communication to this office by way of email to [email protected]. If you have a lawyer please have them contact me immediately.
You need to stop all communication with Mr. XXXXX, and all attempts to communicate with him including his family, co-workers, friends and associates need to cease immediately by you or through any third parties on your behalf,. Any further attempts by you, your assistant, any employees, or agents will be deemed to be a harassing action and we will be forced to pursue a Restraining Order without further notice to you.
You have no reason to be communicating with Mr. _________, his family, co-workers, friends and associates at this time and any further communication by way of email, telephone, text messaging, Instant Messaging, in person or through third parties will result in this firm seeking an immediate Restraining Order against you.
Should we have to seek judicial intervention and this matter becomes a public record it will affect you in the following ways:
- You will have a PERMANENT RESTRAINING ORDER (is this true???) on all court records for your obsessive/compulsive behavior which will turn up in any pre-employment background search.
- Your current and future employers, including Deutsch, Inc. and Apple, Inc. will be able to review the Application for a Restraining Order as part of your public record.
Ms. ___e in the interest of everyone’s privacy, this matter can and should end here. There is no need for this to escalate. If you cease all further communication attempts with Mr. G____ we will consider this matter closed.
Should you need to speak with me, please call my office at 310/6XXX.
Needless to say, nothing contained herein is intended nor should be construed as in any way waiving, or prejudicing any rights or remedies our client may have in this matter.
PS - By the way -- the lawyer did quite a scary thing that suggests his complete lack of mental disorder awareness. I couldn't believe this but the lawyer said -- do you want to ruin everyone's lives, because you're going to if ever even think about contacting david again. i said -- I simply do not understand why you're speaking to me this way. I'd like to speak to David. Is there any way I may communicate with him. I don't believe this letter arose for irrational reasons as we spoke last night and agreed to PAUSE all 3rd party intervention.
This is his response:
LAUGHTER. Are you serious? Seriously? Listen. David Glickman never wants to talk to you again. And by never I mean never ever ever ever not til hell freezes over. Not even if he was in his death bed, not even if his body turned over in his grave -- not even then --- not even for a second. not even a momentary lapse of judgement -- would david ever even consider the idea of contacting you again . UNDERSTAND???
I was so confused and shaken i said thank you for the clarity and hung up the phone.
I emailed david that night -- i was worried. i got a scathing phone call from the lawyer the next day about how he was trying to figure out how to keep my employers out of it --
is this legal? intimidation of a mentally ill person suffering from a disorder of anxiety and doubt?