For Attorney Andrea: Hello my friend. I really was only given a few days off. My sister is pushing for visitation and calling rights to her mother. .. A reasonable request right? Wrong! Firstly, how can a daughter take her mother to court, with the ultimate objective of taking basic human rights away from her, just because she isn't a 'preferred sibling', something that is earned through sincerity in my feelings and actions I take for them. Secondly, (speaking in first person format), I must deal with 3 issues. They are:
My mother and I were called by Florida Police, about 6 months ago.. They actually wanted us to describe our features as if we were wanted. To avoid being uncooperative, we answered their questions. My mother was accused, by my sister, of abusing the 911 system on 2 occasions, making numerous calls to my sister's answering machine, and I was accused (by my sister) of instigating the whole thing. Now, I believe my sister is a sociopathic liar and always tries to entrap her mother. Here was my defense/response to the Florida Police (2 reasons given):
There were no emergencies that I know of in the household of my sister, and I am, and I always was, fully aware of the fact that the 911 # XXXXX only be used in a responsible and potentially life saving manner. Those that know me, would never even comprehend a misuse on my part, of the EMS system. My sister, obviously has some issues to deal with.I know my mother. She would not intentionally harass her daughter. Therefore, whatever she stated to her daughter, may have been a result of: a) frustration, due to my sister's habit of hanging up on my mother, and then blocking her calls, causing my mother to keep calling until unblocked. This occurred on many of the calls initiated by my sister, so my mother is not the 'calling villain' here. In effect, my mother fell into a trap, whereby she presumed her daughter's phone would eventually be unblocked again (an MO of my sister). I was asked by my mother to try my phone on 1 or 2 occasions only, in the event a successful connection could have been made that way (if the call had gone through, I would've immediately given the phone to my mother). I believe my sister preys on my mother's emotional attachment to her. So, who's harassing who? b) fear, due to a possible distrust of her daughter's lifestyle. Her daughter was observed excessively drinking alcohol upon her visits to NY. In addition, her daughter was sick, whereby my mother had to call Dr. ------------- (forensic
psychiatrist and MD) to treat my sister for Marijuana toxicity. My sister has recently reported to NYC Adult Protective Services, that Dr. ------------- is incompetent. My sister has also reported 2 additional complaints to NYC APS (3 now, and all closed). All of the above APS cases have been closed and found to be unwarranted. I warned my sister that filing such cases without a premise and/or for her own self interest, is a felony. It was exactly 1 or 2 weeks after that warning, that my sister filed the most recent complaint against my mother and I, with Florida Police. There is no way my mother's motivation was intended to harass. I would always advise my mother to be careful not to make any statements that could be used against her, and I never 'controlled' her thinking and/or statements, other than to advise her to be extremely cautious and not to let her emotions take over. She is a mother of 87 years, and she does not suffer from dementia according to Dr. ------------- (her regular physician) and Dr. ------------- (her psychiatrist and alternate physician).
(I am reiterating the 1st issue... all of the above, perhaps because it is the most important issue of the 3 ... 2 follow this, because I made a verbal promise to an Officer ------------- at the Florida precinct, that no more calls would be made to my sister's location, and I asked for the same from my sister, to cease calling here, which of course you know, she has violated that numerous times, and in many ways. I on the other hand, intend to keep my word unless I have something in writing from the Florida precinct. If I allow communications and visitations, as recommended by the court evaluator and my mother's Creedmoor lawyer, who both witnessed the brilliant acting of a very shocked and disappointed daughter (tears, hugging, and crying out "MOM") that *someone finally said "NO" to my sister, who's used to getting her way all the time, (the wise and honorable, in every sense of the word, *Judge). Even my new lawyer witnessed this oscar winning performance by my sister, and suggested open communications and visitations).
The second issue is that there were 2 independent doctor reactions, for which I have signed documentation, attesting to my mother's vastly improved state of mind and overall health in the last 3 months, exactly the amount of time my mother has had no communications or visitations from my sister. This factor is actually more important than the first issue, but if I were to be separated from my mother, the end result would be devastating. So, am I supposed to disregard her doctors?
I don't trust my sister. She records, entraps, tries to have her own mother arrested, fabricates incredible and horrible things... how can I ever trust her.
Yet, I feel one day, fingers will be pointing at me... a sociopath knows how to throw blame around... she can get the sympathy she desires, and let's not forget her invisible husband... he must totally disagree with her... nah... or perhaps he's neutral... nah... or maybe he writes her material... whoever's writing her script probably encourages her to 'never give up!'... with the theory that eventually 'something may give way'... similar tactics of the most sinister people on this planet.
My question, dear XXXXX, is how do I stop a train that seems to gain momentum when it should've gotten derailed? Or, perhaps I'm worrying too much."This case is dismissed". I must remember those words and believe that to be the case... But, I know my sister won't stop. How can all these lawyers have no cure for this kind of cancer? C'mon Andrea... be the heroine here! I have faith in you. Think... take the time out for thought.
I also wish you guidance from divine providence. I know you are special. You have the answer within you.
Sincerely, XXXXX XXXXX trekking friend... Eddie.