Legal

Ask a Lawyer and Get Answers to Your Legal Questions

Ask a Lawyer,
Get an Answer ASAP!

Legal
This answer was rated:

My childs father is harassing me. Always bothering me with

My child's father is harassing...
My child's father is harassing me. Always bothering me with texts trying to get back with me and claiming he loves me yet he is sending the identical texts to his previous girlfriend( the lady he was seeing behind my back & moved in with after i kicked him out of my house). I am in the address confidentiality program and hope the judge will let me use that as my address because he is pressed on knowing where i now reside(i left my house i kicked him out of due to him riding by late at night and leaving a nasty note on my door...stalking!) Im sure if he were to get my new address he would be stalking me again and i do not want to live in fear again and loose anymore sleep over him. He has always been disrespectful and i have texts to prove that. I never pressed any stalking, harassment or domestic abuse charges because I'm finally realizing what occurred as i have been getting ready for this case against him. I have just been dealing with everything to keep the peace for now for the safety of my daughter...not to get him upset with me and let it roll over onto her.

The lady he was seeing behind my back and i are now friends because she contacted me recently after she kicked him out of her house and he destroyed 3 tvs by punching and cutting the cords, poured drink on her laptop and broke it (as he did mine), and many, many other items of her's he has destroyed. But as I said before, he is harassing us both with the same texts just waiting to see which of us may be dumb enough to take him back. He and i currently have a temporary visitation set up for our daughter with me having primary custody, but after hearing how crazy he went on his ex and how he was domestically abusive to us both( she and i have been through the exact same things with him...basically verbatim) I fear for my child being around him. He uses and sells steroids, smokes marijuana while watching my child, has an older daughter who bothers our child while taking her naps and no telling what else goes on while in his care!!! All of these things i just found out, otherwise i probably would not have agreed to any visitation because he is crazy!!

He is known to have severe road rage and has accrued many speeding tickets just over the past couple of years. He has threatened suicide to both the ex and me since we do not want him back. Overall he is mean, controlling, harassing, emotionally abusive and a sociopath. I am wondering if anyone has any opinions on what a judge may rule for his continuing to see our daughter once we have our custody hearing? i hear so much of NC judges " giving the benefit of the doubt" and " give him a chance" but how much should my child be exposed to and what amount of danger does she have to possibly endure to get the courts to see he is unit and she is truly better off without him in her life?!? Cant he be locked up for the steroid use and selling? Would they cut off any visitation knowing all of this? Could i get his parental rights terminated?

He has never worked to support her and I am and have always been her primary caregiver, even when we lived together...he was too busy running the roads seeing other women to want to be home with his daughter. I and his ex are truly afraid he will ruin my smart young daughter with his selfish, uncaring, drug filled lifestyle. The ex is going to be a surprise witness. also and i'm afraid after that he may follow through with his sucidical thoughts and hurt our child and himself to get back at me for letting the courts know he is such a terrible person.

I do have an attorney but wanted a second opinion becAuse i'm afraid everything will be too lenient on him and as i said have the attitude of " well give him a chance" when i know and have been told by his ex how bad of a parent he truly is behind closed doors.

Thank you
Fearing for my baby
Show More
Show Less
Ask Your Own Legal Question
Answered in 2 minutes by:
5/16/2013
Brandon M.
Brandon M., Counselor at Law
Category: Legal
Satisfied Customers: 12,620
Experience: Attorney experienced in numerous areas of law.
Verified

Brandon M. : Hello there.
Customer: Hi...any thoughts on my issues
Brandon M. : Hi, thanks for your questions. I do have some thoughts.
Customer: ok
Brandon M. : You probably know some of this because you have an attorney, but child custody is determined based on the best interests of the child. The challenge is oftentimes proving what is in the child's best interests. You have given me a lot of negative information about the father, but how much of this could be verified in court?
Customer: Welli h
Customer: well i have the ex under oath giving her side, a used needle from his steriod injections, texts asking me if there are anymore steriod bottles at the house, i had a keylogger on my computer showing the many steriod websites he went. to, and he would fail a drug test.
Customer: I have given my attorney the nasty note he left on my door and also have every text he sends me showing how harassing he is, he admitted to riding by my house late at night and taking pictures because i was not there...and i wasnt there because i knew he would be coming bybthere.
Customer: I have his various texts stating how he cant take it any,ore and eluding to suicidal thoughts.
Customer: He can be proven a liar based off of things he has already put in court documents and how he is trying to go and forth between the both of us ladies. He told his attorney and had me believing he finally was working but he hasn't. My attorney asked for documents to prove that so when he cant produce anything that will show he is a big liar.
Brandon M. : That makes sense. I'd like to address your questions, now that I have that information asked: (1) I am wondering if anyone has any opinions on what a judge may rule for his continuing to see our daughter once we have our custody hearing? A. It really comes down to the quality of the evidence for any given case. I should clarify that because the nuances of every situation are different, this information should not be relied upon as complete or advice without consulting in person with your attorney. That said, if the evidence supports even half the allegations that you listed, one would normally expect the father to receive supervised visitation as the most. (2) i hear so much of NC judges " giving the benefit of the doubt" and " give him a chance" but how much should my child be exposed to and what amount of danger does she have to possibly endure to get the courts to see he is unit and she is truly better off without him in her life?!? A. That's not really the law, and the people who think that tend to not understand the system. A child's best interests are met if the child can have a significant and positive relationship with both parents. However, if the relationship with one parent would be harmful because of the parent's lifestyle and pattern of actions, no court will "give the benefit of the doubt." It comes down to evidence.(3) Cant he be locked up for the steroid use and selling? A. It is criminally illegal to sell or possess certain drugs without a prescription. Doing so may result in jail time.(4) Would they cut off any visitation knowing all of this? A. If the evidence proves it, that would be a likely outcome. Another possibility is minimal visitation that is supervised.(5) Could i get his parental rights terminated?
Brandon M. : To answer the last question, termination of parental rights is quite different from having no visitation or custody rights. Termination of parental rights is not easy to get or likely for any given case, and usually can only be achieved after a significant, willful absence from the child's life.
Brandon M. : The challenge for me in this situation is that I can't see the evidence with my own eyes, so I can't make a reliable estimate about its persuasiveness. I can't read the notes or listen to voice messages, or speak with any witnesses. I can tell you that illegal drug use is usually all that is needed for a parent to lose custody. Violence, threats toward the other parent, and even an absence of parenting experience with the child are all reasons to minimize or eliminate custodial rights.
Customer: Ok. Well i know he is off to a bad start because it can easily be proven he is a liar and how volatile he is and i definitely have a plethora of texts showing his mood swings. I pray the rest of my evidence and testimony from myself and the other lady and maybe a few others will help. i do definitely fear for my daughters safety and it makes me sick we have this agreement now for him to see her but i am just trying to go with the flow until. court day and pray she isn't harmed too much by what she sees, hears or endures.
Customer: Your opinions have made me feel much better about things. The other lady is trying to get a warrant for his arrest for destroying her property so i know that wouldn't help him also. But anyhow, I thank you so much for your help.
Brandon M. : You said that you were looking for a second opinion on all of this. I can discuss the law, but (as I mentioned), I'm not in a position to examine your evidence or project the outcome in your specific case. What are your attorney's thoughts?
Customer: Untill recently, we were going to be civil and just settle for the me getong primary custody and him having his specific visitation. After fidning out all of this information from the ex though, i want feel i need to reallynput all ofmthe cardson the table becuaae i have reallyfound out what a cruel, unstable person he really is. And i know it isnt her saying all of these things for revenge on him becausse we have identical storys. it is amazing we can almost finish each other sentences from the loads of liesnhe told us and how controlling he was. So i know for my daughters sake, sanity and safety, he father needs to be exposed for the sociopath he is...to the justice system and l
Customer: hopefully they will do the right thing about him.
Brandon M. : That makes sense.
Customer: sorry, i'm on an ipad and i didnt get to go back and fix my mistakes before it sent.
Brandon M. : No problems. I think that I understood.
Brandon M. : Did you have any other question?
Customer: No i really don't. it has just been refreshing to hear another legal point of view on this. I feel very strongly about my case and his heart will jump out of his chest when he sees the ex as a witness. He has no idea we would be talking, let alone working together to expose him. She and i get texts from him everyday and it is so hard to bite our tongues knowing he is lying and trying to play us both. i told her though to be patient because ultimately this is for my 2 year old girl and i don't want him flying off of the handle before court while he does have rights to visitation. Plus he is a flight risk...he lives with his mom now and is miserable and he has threatened to tAke my child before... so we are just playing it very cool.
Customer: Thank you so much!!! I really do appreciate your thoughts!!!
Brandon M. : It was my pleasure. I wish you the best.
Customer: Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX
Brandon M.
Brandon M., Counselor at Law
Category: Legal
Satisfied Customers: 12,620
Experience: Attorney experienced in numerous areas of law.
Verified
Brandon M. and 87 other Legal Specialists are ready to help you
Ask your own question now
Ask Brandon M. Your Own Question
Brandon M.
Brandon M.
Brandon M., Counselor at Law
Category: Legal
Satisfied Customers: 12,620
12,620 Satisfied Customers
Experience: Attorney experienced in numerous areas of law.

Brandon M. is online now

A new question is answered every 9 seconds

How JustAnswer works:

  • Ask an ExpertExperts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional AnswerVia email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site. Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction GuaranteeRate the answer you receive.

JustAnswer in the News:

Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

Mr. Kaplun clearly had an exceptional understanding of the issue and was able to explain it concisely. I would recommend JustAnswer to anyone. Great service that lives up to its promises!

Gary B.Edmond, OK

My Expert was fast and seemed to have the answer to my taser question at the tips of her fingers. Communication was excellent. I left feeling confident in her answer.

EricRedwood City, CA

I am very pleased with JustAnswer as a place to go for divorce or criminal law knowledge and insight.

MichaelWichita, KS

PaulMJD helped me with questions I had regarding an urgent legal matter. His answers were excellent.

Three H.Houston, TX

Anne was extremely helpful. Her information put me in the right direction for action that kept me legal, possible saving me a ton of money in the future. Thank you again, Anne!!

ElaineAtlanta, GA

It worked great. I had the facts and I presented them to my ex-landlord and she folded and returned my deposit. The 50 bucks I spent with you solved my problem.

TonyApopka, FL

Not only did he answer my Michigan divorce question but was also able to help me out with it, too. I have since won my legal case on this matter and thank you so much for it.

LeeMichigan

< Previous | Next >

Meet the Experts:

Tina

Tina

Lawyer

8,775 satisfied customers

JD, BBA Over 25 years legal and business experience.

Ely

Ely

Counselor at Law

24,353 satisfied customers

Private practice with focus on family, criminal, PI, consumer protection, and business consultation.

INFOLAWYER

INFOLAWYER

Attorney

20,727 satisfied customers

Licensed attorney helping individuals and businesses

JPEsq

JPEsq

Attorney

2,132 satisfied customers

Experience as general attorney, in house counsel, SSDI, Family Law attorney, and law professor

Law Educator, Esq.

Law Educator, Esq.

Attorney

42,358 satisfied customers

JA Mentor -Attorney Labor/employment, corporate, sports law, admiralty/maritime and civil rights law

Ellen

Ellen

Lawyer, Consultant

8,238 satisfied customers

25 years of experience helping people like you.

Guillermo J. Senmartin, Esq.

Guillermo J. Senmartin, Esq.

Attorney

292 satisfied customers

7+ years of experience handling various legal matters.

< Previous | Next >

Related Legal Questions
Is this confidential? Your website was helpful! Stateside. I
I am a Navy SELRES O-3 and I met someone that I am interested in Dating. She is AD Air Force, but I found out she is enlisted. She is not in my chain of command and not even on the same base. Since I met her in a civilian capacity, will this still be considered fraternization? Thank you for your help!… read more
Law Educator, Esq.
Law Educator, Esq.
Attorney
Doctoral Degree
42,358 satisfied customers
I SIGNED A COMPETITIVE CONFIDENTIALITY AGREEMENT NOT TO GO
I SIGNED A COMPETITIVE CONFIDENTIALITY AGREEMENT NOT TO GO TO A COMPETITOR FOR 2 YEARS NUT I NEED TO LEAVE ITS ALL I BEEN DOING ALL MY LIFE … read more
LegalKnowledge
LegalKnowledge
Juris Doctor
28,183 satisfied customers
Is this confidential? I am a contract. Texas. None
Is this confidential? JA: We keep all your personally identifiable information confidential and even have people that double check to make sure something doesn't slip through. Your question goes out t… read more
Olivia Kent
Olivia Kent
Managing Partner
Doctoral Degree
1,969 satisfied customers
Is this confidential. I think I'm being scammed ... Here is
I think I'm being scammed ... Here is the story - I answered a CL post to meet up with an 18 yr. old man Before we ever met he said he was under 16 and I said forget it have I done anything criminally wrong? … read more
LawGuy
LawGuy
Juris Doctor
123 satisfied customers
An ex employee stole confidential client information in
An ex employee stole confidential client information in order to seek business. Not sure how many, however couple of clients have come forth that they received calls from this ex employee. Is this a c… read more
Legal Eagle
Legal Eagle
Attorney
Doctoral Degree
7,403 satisfied customers
A coworker was to keep a conversation confidential have it
a coworker was to keep a conversation confidential have it in writing but she posted to social media naming a person I said I could sue for slander and also mentioning I thought he was stalking me but… read more
LegalGems
LegalGems
Juris Doctorate
10,720 satisfied customers
Everquote insurance using my confidential auto quote.Posting
Everquote insurance using my confidential auto quote.Posting on several site on Yahoo with my name and birthday without my permission. Can his co do this? … read more
Law Educator, Esq.
Law Educator, Esq.
Attorney
Doctoral Degree
42,358 satisfied customers
I was recently involved in a road rage situation. Myself and
I was recently involved in a road rage situation. Myself and two other persons ,both in company vehicles. I had a green light in bad weather conditions, in a truck with no abs system in working order.… read more
Asad Rahman
Asad Rahman
Attorney
J.D.
2,300 satisfied customers
Will the conversation be kept in confidential? I have a
I have a question about the Release of Employment Information. … read more
Legal Eagle
Legal Eagle
Attorney
Doctoral Degree
7,403 satisfied customers
Is this confidential. I am a boss that had relation with an
I am a boss that had sexual relation with an employee. I am fearing that she will be filing a misconduct on my part. I know it was a mistake, what should i do … read more
Legal Eagle
Legal Eagle
Attorney
Doctoral Degree
7,403 satisfied customers
I would like to get someone to create a confidentiality
I would like to get someone to create a confidentiality document for third parties who are helping me build my startup. This should also including any value they contribute is the startups etc.. … read more
Bill Attorney
Bill Attorney
law
1,607 satisfied customers
Is this considered confidential? I have an issue with my ex
I have an issue with my ex who has been stalking me. The weekend prior to this following incident I will briefly explain, I had someone (on audio) going through my room and drawers and there are audible voices on the video. Being that I have been denied for a protective order before, I was in the process of trying to gather enough to go to the court so the judge wouldn't turn me away. The following weekend, I had an incident where I woke up, and my cameras showed something that I thought to be an intruder earlier in the night. I called the police. It turns out one of the clips was in fact me, dropping a camera. After that, they dismissed everything else I had to say. They expressed that they believed I was mentally unstable. Didn't want to hear anything about the previous infusion. My sister in law spoke to the officer on my phone. I requested he not leave my presence while on it He did … read more
Barrister
Barrister
Attorney/Landlord/Realtor
Doctoral Degree
35,370 satisfied customers
My friend accidentally disclosed a verbal confidential info.
My friend accidentally disclosed a verbal confidential info. As soon as realised she gave an apology. 8 months later she has been suspended with a view to dismissal. There was no benefit received or e… read more
lucy7368
lucy7368
Juris Doctor
763 satisfied customers
I am not sure I understand confidentiality agreements and
I am not sure I understand confidentiality agreements and breach of contract. … read more
Damien Bosco
Damien Bosco
3,395 satisfied customers
I signed a Confidentiality and Non Disclosure Agreement with
I signed a Confidentiality and Non Disclosure Agreement with my current employer a few years ago. Now I want to start my own business within the same industry, also offering products and services in t… read more
Legal Eagle
Legal Eagle
Attorney
Doctoral Degree
7,403 satisfied customers
Re: mediation Does Florida statute on confidentiality of
Re: mediation Does Florida statute on confidentiality of mediation only apply to court ordered or does it apply to pre-suit when no confidentiality agreement is signed. … read more
ScottyMacEsq
ScottyMacEsq
Doctoral Degree
17,324 satisfied customers
Is a confidentiality agreement cover fraudulent activities
is a confidentiality agreement cover fraudulent activities by the person asking for the agreement? This isn't my employer. This is my soon to be ex boyfriends parents who have committed fraud a few ti… read more
TaxAttorneytoHelp
TaxAttorneytoHelp
Owner
Doctoral Degree
2,542 satisfied customers
Is this conversation confidential? I have a question
I have a question regarding a sensitive matter. In the past I have enjoyed looking at non sexualized, non nudity pictures of children in diapers online. Is this in itself illegal? … read more
Zoey, JD
Zoey, JD
Doctoral Degree
181 satisfied customers

DISCLAIMER: Answers from Experts on JustAnswer are not substitutes for the advice of an attorney. JustAnswer is a public forum and questions and responses are not private or confidential or protected by the attorney-client privilege. The Expert above is not your attorney, and the response above is not legal advice. You should not read this response to propose specific action or address specific circumstances, but only to give you a sense of general principles of law that might affect the situation you describe. Application of these general principles to particular circumstances must be done by a lawyer who has spoken with you in confidence, learned all relevant information, and explored various options. Before acting on these general principles, you should hire a lawyer licensed to practice law in the jurisdiction to which your question pertains.

The responses above are from individual Experts, not JustAnswer. The site and services are provided “as is”. To view the verified credential of an Expert, click on the “Verified” symbol in the Expert’s profile. This site is not for emergency questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals. Please carefully read the Terms of Service (last updated February 8, 2012).

DISCLAIMER: Answers from Experts on JustAnswer are not substitutes for the advice of an attorney. JustAnswer is a public forum and questions and responses are not private or confidential or protected by the attorney-client privilege. The Expert above is not your attorney, and the response above is not legal advice. You should not read this response to propose specific action or address specific circumstances, but only to give you a sense of general principles of law that might affect the situation you describe. Application of these general principles to particular circumstances must be done by a lawyer who has spoken with you in confidence, learned all relevant information, and explored various options. Before acting on these general principles, you should hire a lawyer licensed to practice law in the jurisdiction to which your question pertains.

The responses above are from individual Experts, not JustAnswer. The site and services are provided “as is”. To view the verified credential of an Expert, click on the “Verified” symbol in the Expert’s profile. This site is not for emergency questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals. Please carefully read the Terms of Service (last updated February 8, 2012).

Show MoreShow Less

Ask Your Question

x