Legal

Ask a Lawyer and Get Answers to Your Legal Questions

Ask a Lawyer,
Get an Answer ASAP!

Legal
This answer was rated:

I started helping a woman I knew through a local restaurant.

She needed money she said...
I started helping a woman I knew through a local restaurant. She needed money she said or she would be kicked out of her apartment. Then she lost her job. I've basically been supporting her for the last 7 months because whenever I don't return her texts or come up with money when she needs it, she threatens to tell my wife and friends. I don't know what to do.
Show More
Show Less
Ask Your Own Legal Question
Answered in 4 minutes by:
5/6/2013
Ely
Ely, Counselor at Law
Category: Legal
Satisfied Customers: 102,923
Experience: Private practice with focus on family, criminal, PI, consumer protection, and business consultation.
Verified
Hello friend. My name is XXXXX XXXXX welcome to JustAnswer. Please note: (1) this is general information only, not legal advice, and, (2) there may be a slight delay between your follow ups and my replies.

I am very sorry for your situation. Can you please tell me exactly what she is threatening to tell your family/friends about this? Does she have any leverage on you besides that fact that you have been acting like a Good Samaritan? Is she threatening to tell them that you had an affair with her?

This is not an answer, but an Information Request. I need this information to answer your question. Please reply, so I can answer your question. Thank you in advance.
Ask Your Own Legal Question
Customer reply replied 4 years ago

She is threatening to say we have been having an affair. I have been to her house,fixed a few things for her, worked on her computer. We recently exchanged some racy texts, but there has been no sex involved.

Hmm, I see.

Well this sounds like she is a scammer, and likely had done this before.

What she is doing is called extortion, or more commonly known as "blackmail."

In North Carolina, extortion is illegal under North Carolina General Statutes § 14-457:

"Any person who verbally or by a written or printed communication, maliciously threatens to [damage one's software and/or hardware] with the intent to extort money or any pecuniary advantage, or with the intent to compel any person to do or refrain from doing any act against his will, is guilty of a Class H felony."

What someone in your situation may wish to do is twofold:

1) Simply tell her that you will go to the police if she continues to do this, and will file a complaint. Before you do so, it may be prudent to collect texts/emails from her threatening to spread this rumor, or, record her making such a thread (it is legal to record her if you are party to the conversation - N.C. Gen. Stat. Ann. § 15A-286; North Carolina v. Price, 611 S.E.2d 891 (N.C. Ct. App. 2005)). A lot of times, then she will simply drop the matter, as she will know that you have real leverage and may file a complaint;

or

2) If you do not wish to confront her and have proof of her extortion (email, letter, text, recording), then go to the police and make a formal criminal complaint and she may be charged with a crime.

I hope this helps and clarifies. Best of luck.

Gentle Reminder: Please use the REPLY button to keep chatting, or RATE my answer when we are finished. Kindly rate my answer as one of the top three faces and then submit, as this is how I get credit for my time with you. Rating my answer the bottom two faces does not give me credit and reflects poorly on me, even if my answer is correct. I work very hard to formulate an informative and honest answer for you; please reciprocate my good faith. (You may always ask follow ups at no charge after rating.)
Ask Your Own Legal Question
Customer reply replied 4 years ago

I actually told her I would go to the police. She replied that she would tell them I raped her. This was about 4 months ago. So I kept giving her the money. I didn't know it until after I started helping her that she'd just gotten out of prison recently. She was in prison for embezzlement at a local company approximately 9 years ago. I don't know how many years she was in prison.

A,

Considering that:

1) She has a criminal record; and
2) She was in prison for embezzlement, it is very unlikely that her claim of 'rape' would be taken seriously given (1) her history, (2) the fact that she never came forward 4 months ago, and (3) her motive to continue payment.

All it takes is getting her to state this in an email, a text, or a recording (if you do not have this already), and then taking this to the authorities. I know this may be somewhat frightening, but you are stuck between a rock and a hard place and that is the only way of getting out. I highly doubt that the police are going to take her claim seriously given her past for fraud.

Gentle Reminder: Again, surely you prefer that I be honest in my answer – please remember that rating negatively due to receiving bad news still hurts the expert – it is simply the way that the system is set up. Please use REPLY button to keep chatting, or RATE my answer when we are finished. (You may always ask follow ups free after rating.)
Ask Your Own Legal Question
Customer reply replied 4 years ago

Should I contact the police directly first? Or should I get a local attorney first?

Friend,

This is your choice, but, it is strongly recommended to get local counsel first, since they will help you with the process and ensure that what you are doing is proper since the matter can be very delicate. May I recommend the NC Bar referral program - here. The attorneys are vetted and qualified. You should be able to find an attorney you are confident with and whom you can trust, and who is available ASAP.

Gentle Reminder: Please use the REPLY button to keep chatting, or RATE and submit your rating when we are finished.
Ask Your Own Legal Question
Customer reply replied 4 years ago

I guess what I'm afraid of is that if I tell the police what happened, she'll still pretty much be able to do what she has threatened anyway (contact my wife and friends, say things about me on Facebook, etc. Is this true?

Friend,

Once/if you file the complaint, you may also request that the criminal court file for a RESTRAINING ORDER against her when/if she is charged, or, get one yourself in civil court.

If so, then she and/or her agents shall be restrained from contacting you and/or your family/friends. Also, you may threaten to sue her for DEFAMATION as well.

There is always a risk, yes, but faced with another criminal charge, she likely to back down. She does not want to go back to prison. So you actually have more leverage here with the criminal complaint than she does with the threat of going to your loved ones.

Gentle Reminder: Please use the REPLY button to keep chatting, or RATE and submit your rating when we are finished.
Ask Your Own Legal Question
Customer reply replied 4 years ago

One more question please, I'm on the NC Find-a-Lawyer site and it is asking me to select an "area of law" and I'm not sure what to select.

Hello friend,

Please ask as much as you need to, for this is why I am here.

Considering that she is threatening you with rape and she herself is committing a crime, a CRIMINAL attorney would be the appropriate choice.

Gentle Reminder: Please use the REPLY button to keep chatting, or RATE and submit your rating when we are finished.
Ask Your Own Legal Question
Customer reply replied 4 years ago

Thank you for your advice. I appreciate your time.

You are very welcome. Good luck, and please don't forget to rate my answer in one of top three faces and then SUBMIT – it is the only way I get credit for my time with you – or, please REPLY to keep on chatting – I want you to be satisfied.
Ely
Ely, Counselor at Law
Category: Legal
Satisfied Customers: 102,923
Experience: Private practice with focus on family, criminal, PI, consumer protection, and business consultation.
Verified
Ely and 87 other Legal Specialists are ready to help you
Ask your own question now
Ask Ely Your Own Question
Ely
Ely
Ely, Counselor at Law
Category: Legal
Satisfied Customers: 102,923
102,923 Satisfied Customers
Experience: Private practice with focus on family, criminal, PI, consumer protection, and business consultation.

Ely is online now

A new question is answered every 9 seconds

How JustAnswer works:

  • Ask an ExpertExperts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional AnswerVia email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site. Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction GuaranteeRate the answer you receive.

JustAnswer in the News:

Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

Mr. Kaplun clearly had an exceptional understanding of the issue and was able to explain it concisely. I would recommend JustAnswer to anyone. Great service that lives up to its promises!

Gary B.Edmond, OK

My Expert was fast and seemed to have the answer to my taser question at the tips of her fingers. Communication was excellent. I left feeling confident in her answer.

EricRedwood City, CA

I am very pleased with JustAnswer as a place to go for divorce or criminal law knowledge and insight.

MichaelWichita, KS

PaulMJD helped me with questions I had regarding an urgent legal matter. His answers were excellent.

Three H.Houston, TX

Anne was extremely helpful. Her information put me in the right direction for action that kept me legal, possible saving me a ton of money in the future. Thank you again, Anne!!

ElaineAtlanta, GA

It worked great. I had the facts and I presented them to my ex-landlord and she folded and returned my deposit. The 50 bucks I spent with you solved my problem.

TonyApopka, FL

Not only did he answer my Michigan divorce question but was also able to help me out with it, too. I have since won my legal case on this matter and thank you so much for it.

LeeMichigan

< Previous | Next >

Meet the Experts:

Tina

Tina

Lawyer

8,775 satisfied customers

JD, BBA Over 25 years legal and business experience.

Ely

Ely

Counselor at Law

102,923 satisfied customers

Private practice with focus on family, criminal, PI, consumer protection, and business consultation.

INFOLAWYER

INFOLAWYER

Attorney

20,727 satisfied customers

Licensed attorney helping individuals and businesses

JPEsq

JPEsq

Attorney

2,132 satisfied customers

Experience as general attorney, in house counsel, SSDI, Family Law attorney, and law professor

Law Educator, Esq.

Law Educator, Esq.

Attorney

42,358 satisfied customers

JA Mentor -Attorney Labor/employment, corporate, sports law, admiralty/maritime and civil rights law

Ellen

Ellen

Lawyer, Consultant

8,238 satisfied customers

25 years of experience helping people like you.

Guillermo J. Senmartin, Esq.

Guillermo J. Senmartin, Esq.

Attorney

292 satisfied customers

7+ years of experience handling various legal matters.

< Previous | Next >

Related Legal Questions
Some online is trying to extort money from me. Florida. I
I tried to do a police report but they told me there was nothing they could do … read more
Zoey, JD
Zoey, JD
Doctoral Degree
181 satisfied customers
Someone from the UK is threatening a defamation lawsuit over
Someone from the UK is threatening a defamation lawsuit over a youtube video in which nothing was said about this person. I live in the US. What is the jurisdiction? US or UK? … read more
INFOLAWYER
INFOLAWYER
Attorney
Doctoral Degree
20,727 satisfied customers
If one commits defamation is there something one can do
If one commits defamation is there something one can do before anything is filed to reduce losing a house or 401m?… read more
Barrister
Barrister
Attorney/Landlord/Realtor
Doctoral Degree
35,307 satisfied customers
I have filed a criminal complaint about my stolen retirement
Second opinion] I have filed a criminal complaint about my stolen retirement funds, now I need help in filing a civil suit so that I can issue supeneana for paper trail. What NC statute would I file t… read more
Asad Rahman
Asad Rahman
Attorney
J.D.
2,286 satisfied customers
Is there a federal criminal attorney that can answer some
Is there a federal criminal attorney that can answer some questions for me? … read more
Zoey, JD
Zoey, JD
Doctoral Degree
181 satisfied customers
I believe I am being extorted. I have a POF account and at
I believe I am being extorted. I have a POF account and at one point gave my number out. Last night I was contacted and this e … read more
Zoey, JD
Zoey, JD
Doctoral Degree
181 satisfied customers
I've been serve with defamation of character. My Hoa
I've been serve with defamation of character. My Hoa president called me on the phone and told me that my 11 years old son tried to drown her son at the community pool in our neighborhood and told me … read more
LegalGems
LegalGems
Juris Doctorate
10,665 satisfied customers
I have a question about extortion in Utah. Can you help? No
I have a question about extortion in Utah. Can you help? … read more
Ely
Ely
Counselor at Law
102,923 satisfied customers
In a civil case when suing for defamation is it true that
In a civil case when suing for defamation is it true that Damages are presumed and need not be proven with evidence of actual damages? That damages pursuant to Defamation per se analysis? Can anyone e… read more
Legal Eagle
Legal Eagle
Attorney
Doctoral Degree
7,317 satisfied customers
In California, is it possible to file a defamation of
In California, is it possible to file a defamation of character claim against a place of business that files a police report alleging criminal threats, when one threatens to exercise their first amend… read more
Zoey, JD
Zoey, JD
Doctoral Degree
181 satisfied customers
I have filed a criminal complaint about my stolen retirement
I have filed a criminal complaint about my stolen retirement funds, now I need help in filing a civil suit so that I can issue supeneana for paper trail. What NC statute would I file the civil suit un… read more
N Cal Atty
N Cal Atty
Doctoral Degree
59 satisfied customers
Defamatio of character. New york city. Just a defamation of
defamatio of character JA: What state are you in? It matters because laws vary by location. Customer: new york city JA: Has anything been filed or reported? Customer: no JA: Anything else you want the… read more
Nisha Jones, Esq.
Nisha Jones, Esq.
Juris Doctorate
1,755 satisfied customers
If a defamation would insite a criminal act from a mental
If a defamation would insite a criminal act from a mental person. Could the said person who slanders / defamation that person be held responsible of a crime? … read more
TJ, Esq.
TJ, Esq.
Juris Doctor (JD)
11,255 satisfied customers
Police and courts extorting time and money been paying money
Police and courts extorting time and money been paying money for payoffs for the protection It's been going on for years Carl ******* *** *********** ** ********* ** *****. Want more info look me up o… read more
Zoey, JD
Zoey, JD
Doctoral Degree
181 satisfied customers
Can extortion be used to reopen a divorce property agreement
Can extortion be used to reopen a divorce property agreement even three years on? … read more
P. Simmons
P. Simmons
Attorney
Doctoral Degree
35,290 satisfied customers
I am being extorted by a Vancouver based Escort with
I am being extorted by a Vancouver based Escort with compromising pictures of myself. I have no intention of paying and I have emails from her proving she is attempting to extort me as well as her con… read more
Olivia Kent
Olivia Kent
Managing Partner
Doctoral Degree
1,946 satisfied customers
Is a consumer subject to a defamation... Is a consumer
Is a consumer subject to a defamation... Is a consumer subject to a defamation suit if filing a false e.g. "I think I've been scammed" to a Federal Agency, e.g. FTC, CFPB etc.? (it's been reported tha… read more
LegalPro54
LegalPro54
Doctoral Degree
1,258 satisfied customers
I have a contract with a criminal attorney to be paid at
I have a contract with a criminal attorney to be paid at $33000/year each year for 3 years to total $100K. One year of $33000 was paid and very little time has been put into this complicated case. I h… read more
LegalKnowledge
LegalKnowledge
Juris Doctor
28,114 satisfied customers

DISCLAIMER: Answers from Experts on JustAnswer are not substitutes for the advice of an attorney. JustAnswer is a public forum and questions and responses are not private or confidential or protected by the attorney-client privilege. The Expert above is not your attorney, and the response above is not legal advice. You should not read this response to propose specific action or address specific circumstances, but only to give you a sense of general principles of law that might affect the situation you describe. Application of these general principles to particular circumstances must be done by a lawyer who has spoken with you in confidence, learned all relevant information, and explored various options. Before acting on these general principles, you should hire a lawyer licensed to practice law in the jurisdiction to which your question pertains.

The responses above are from individual Experts, not JustAnswer. The site and services are provided “as is”. To view the verified credential of an Expert, click on the “Verified” symbol in the Expert’s profile. This site is not for emergency questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals. Please carefully read the Terms of Service (last updated February 8, 2012).

DISCLAIMER: Answers from Experts on JustAnswer are not substitutes for the advice of an attorney. JustAnswer is a public forum and questions and responses are not private or confidential or protected by the attorney-client privilege. The Expert above is not your attorney, and the response above is not legal advice. You should not read this response to propose specific action or address specific circumstances, but only to give you a sense of general principles of law that might affect the situation you describe. Application of these general principles to particular circumstances must be done by a lawyer who has spoken with you in confidence, learned all relevant information, and explored various options. Before acting on these general principles, you should hire a lawyer licensed to practice law in the jurisdiction to which your question pertains.

The responses above are from individual Experts, not JustAnswer. The site and services are provided “as is”. To view the verified credential of an Expert, click on the “Verified” symbol in the Expert’s profile. This site is not for emergency questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals. Please carefully read the Terms of Service (last updated February 8, 2012).

Show MoreShow Less

Ask Your Question

x