I have a question about sexual harassment
. I am a massage therapist and my client of 6 years, who has never been inappropriate with me before, came onto me a few weeks ago. When I did not return his advances he fired me. I should also tell you that I clean his house and massage his wife, their 12 y/o daughter, and the employees
who work for them.
So, he came onto me and I declined. He fired me from working on him but nor from doing the other things. Then he hurt his back a few days later and needed me to work on him. As I am a single mother of a special needs child, I accepted because I needed the money. His business brings in over $600/mo for me.
Once again, he came onto me again. This time I knew that my job was on the line. I accepted his advances and gave into his demands, which he so delicately put a "love."
I had hoped that would be the end of it and that he would have had his conquest and would have left me alone after that, but I was wrong. He wanted more and more. He insisted that I send him pictures and tease him with sweet emails and texts. Any time I didn't act "enthusiastic" enough about him he would threaten to fire me.
Pretty soon he had an inbox full of sweet emails and texts from me, which made me look like a willing participant. I was just telling him what he wanted to hear so that I could keep the job that I desperately needed.
Finally he started requesting that I accompany him on vacations and trips out of town. When I declined, he fired me completely. I begged him to at least let me keep cleaning the house but he refused.
So I went to his wife and confessed my wrongdoing to her. At first she believed me, but then he pulled out all of the emails and texts from me. He told her that I was the one who had come onto him and that he was the victim. She chose to believe him even though I told her that I wasn't the first woman he had cheated on her with. In fact, there were several others that I know of, one of whom killed herself in order to end the affair!
Now I'm scared that she will sue me or have me stripped of my license on ethical violation. I know that I was wrong and I looked her in her eyes and appologized to her. How many other women would have done that? I don't know where to go from here. I don't know what to do. Maybe there is a chance that this will all blow over and I will just have to hang my head in shame, but there is also the chance that I could be getting a letter from an attorney, or worse, the NC state board in the very near future.