I was served a TRO by a former girlfriend, "J", yesterday (04/12/2013) stating that I am stalking her, threatening her with bodily harm, and even death via the phone, and that I vandalized her car. Here is the chain of events.
10/2011 - She and I met at a function for Swingers. (Yes, Swingers) I became friends with her, and her former boyfriend. (I saw her socially at functions a few times a month going forward).
02/2012 - I started dating "S". I introduced her to J and boyfriend at a function. We saw them at functions after, but J's boyfriend did not want to be friends with S, so we didn't talk much when we saw them.
07/2012 - S and I saw J at a function, and she was now single, so she and I became close friends, and I have pictures, and phone bills to prove it.
08/2012 - J became a lover of ours, but as protocol warrants in the "lifestyle" (a synonym for living as a Swinger), her contact was only with me, as a girlfriend (and lover).
08/2012 - I invite her to Vegas to attend to a large lifestyle party with my boyfriend, and celebrate her 40th birthday (completely at my expense).
09/2012 - I break up with boyfriend, remained amicable, but she suddenly vanishes as a friend I had daily contact with... I ask her repeatedly if she has any contact with S, and she denies it each time.
10/3/2012 - I began to have some mental issues. I became irrational and started sending S text messages that were clearly unstable (in retrospect). The text are full of ridiculous threatening text, and insults. After one such text, I immediately get a text from her that read, "She threatened you, you should keep that". Then I receive another from her immediately saying that the text was meant for her friend "Tracy", who was going through a similar situation. I said I find that hard to believe, but dropped it, not wanting to believe what my intuition was telling me.
Later that night I had an emotional crash, and tried to phone her repeatedly for help. She never picked up, or answered my text. I then left her vm saying that I know she is lying, and with S, or she would be answering my calls, and text asking for help. She called me the next day completely denying any contact with him, as did he. That was the last time I contacted her, or him, until 03/29/2013.
10/4/2012 - I sought medical (mental) help for my irrational behaviors. I was diagnosed with Bipolar I, and prescribed medication that has (for the most part) changed my life in a very positive way. I went away for a couple weeks, and moved on from her false friendship, and both of their lies.
11/2012 - She shows up at a function, and comes to me to tell me once again that she is not with S, hasn't been, and doesn't want to be. I tell her I don't care any longer what she, or he does. I then apologize for the insults I left on her voice mail. But I have no desire to renew our friendship because she clearly was not a friend to me.
03/29/2013 - (10:00pm)I am at a function where friends tell me that S and J had been there as a couple a few weeks prior. Well, I lost it. I called him and left him a few messages saying how I can't believe he and she had told me I was crazy, and my accusations were false. (11:30pm) I leave and drive the 10 mins. home, get on ATT to look up her phone number on an old bill. I text her repeatedly wherein I call her some nasty names, and tell her to stay away from me, and all functions. At no time did I write a threat of any type of harm to her, or anybody else (I know the ramifications of threatening people). I did send more the during the next day with the same content. On 04/01/2013, I sent her one last text that said "J. my texts, and your lack of response proves to me that everything I accused you of was true. She then called my phone 5 times. I picked up on the last call, and called her some names. She once again denied my allegations, said she was at a local sports bar, and I should come over to talk to her. I refused and told her we had nothing to talk about. She then said I should not have keyed her car on 03/29/2013. I told her I did no such thing, I was at the bar with the friends who told me about her until 11:00ish, and then drove home to get her number online. My cell bill shows that I never called her, only she called me. My cell bill shows that I have not contacted her at all since that weekend.
So, on the TRO, she states that the relationship between her and I is simply "she is the ex-girlfriend of a friend of mine". That is a false statement. I have pictures and phone bills proving that she, and I were very, very close friends.
She states that the harassment
/threats she suffered was on 04/01/2013, "by phone". She does not state that she was the one that called me 5 times, I never once called her. My phone bill is proof. She has no proof of threats, just her word, and she is the one that called me, not I her. Now for my question because I can in no way afford legal representation
. Can I file a Motion to Dismiss