I am terribly sorry about your father's illness and what you all are going through. With regard to the funeral, I would certainly take the position that if I am holding a funeral, which is essentially a reception, privately paid for, and can be as private as one wants, even by invite only, that YES, you can ban her from it. However, because you would not likely be able to get a restraining order from a court against her (she has to commit crimes against you for that, generally), the method I would use would be of a more practical nature. When I was making the arrangements, I would speak to the funeral director about your need to keep the stepmonster out, if she were to show up, and how would he suggest that best be handled. You may find you need to have a large friend, act as a bouncer, just in case she shows up. The funeral director has the power to keep unwanted persons off of his property. Prior to the funeral, but not too much beforehand, I would specifically advise her that she is not permitted at your reception and that there will be a guard to ensure she does not seek to enter. She may just be 'forced' to do the right thing and not show up.
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