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While your husband is not legally obligatesd to help you physically, he does have the legal obligation to support you financially.
Therefore, I would suggest you immediately go to Family Court or whatever name that division has in Virginia and if divorce proceedings have NOT yet been started, you file a "Petition for Spousal Support"; the amount you will be awarded by the Court is determined by your husband's income. In addition, if you can show the Court that you have extraordinary needs because of you illness, imobility, medicines you are required to take, etc., you can ask the Court to go outside the support guidelines and award you a greater amount than that provided in the Support Guidelines.
If divorce proceedings have started, in other words you or he, has filed a "Complaint in Divorce" then you would file a Petition for APL (alimony pendente let) which is almony during the divorce proceedings and you will also request the court to award you Interim Counsel Fees.
The APL amount is calculated in the same way, the same factors are considered as in Spousal Support and is in the same amount as Spousal Support, it's just given a different name.
At the time of equitable distribution (division of marital assets) you or your attorney will ask the Court to award a majority of the marital property based on thew fact that you sacrificed the income you would have made had you gone to work, for thew sake of raising the children, keeping house, cleaning, keeping your husband in clean clothes, etc, At this time, you will also file a Petition for Alimony and Final Counsel Fees.
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ANDREA - Attorney at Law & Legal Expert