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[Second opinion] Part 1 OF 2 I own and constantly purchase tools both New and Used. My tools are really important to me and They cost me a lot of money. I am a very organized person with everything I own and have a place for everything and at the same time I am messy. When I go to look for something I need to useand its not in its spot it bothers me. I consider myself a generous and sharing person with just about everything but I have never been someone to let others use or borrow my tools for many reasons. I love my girlfriend whole heartly and unconditionally and I am intrigued with her aspirations to learn how things work by taking things apart and also by trying to fix things So she is the only one that uses my tools that doesn't seem to bother me. What does bother me is that she will start one project then start another project but leave the tools out for each project and not put them back where they belong so I end up doing it myself. ( Picking up after her isnt the problem or bothersome part) The bothersome part is that I have asked her nicely many times when you step away from one project for more than just a break or when you step away to do something else then just put the tools back where they belong. The response I get is ( I am eventually coming back to the project so why should I put them away) so then it happens over and over again and then instead of ASKING I now let her know that it bothers me even more that she ignores my request so I now TELL her to put the tools back where you got them when you step away from something your working on for more then a break. AGAIN she argues with me and justifies herself why she does it and that its just ridiculous that I even ask her and even more ridiculous that it bothers me and makes me mad.
[Second opinion] PART 2 of 2Then I would say over the last year she has attempted to either perform preventative maintenance or fix a number of tool that are very costly and in doing so she has taken them apart and or taken them apart far more then necessary so then they are unusable and need to professionally resembled. the initial cost of these items is expensive but then they need to be replaced because I need them so its double costly. One tool I replaced was a compressor that when picked up was broke by no fault of her but she felt she needed to take that apart and fix it 6 months ago and has been working on it since then all while leaving the tools out in the mean time every time she decides to spend time on it. This is another TOOL related issue that bothers me that i have voiced many times and started with ASKING her nicely to please stop taking tools apart or trying to fix them... AGAIN she wont comply instead she justifies herself. So this has caused many fights and I tell her that these things bother me and I all i ask in return for using the tools is that they be returned when you walk away from a project and dont take EXPENSIVE tools apart for any reason. Both these issues are ongoing and beyond me being nice about asking anymore because its way past me tolerating even listening to myself ask or complain about the simple request I ask of her .So two weeks ago before we left to go on a weekend up to the north house I said for now on please do not TAKE apart anything that costs alot of money, To just put the tools away when you walk away from the project and to cease any and all repairs on the compressor. So before i left I bought a riding lawn mower off craigslist that is just about new but had some previous owner mickey mouse work done where the bagger attaches ( Didn't effect normal operations ) so we get up there and I start assembling the rear bagging system and needed some bolts to complete the assembly but it was late and i was tired so i went to bed. When i got up in the morning i fist noticed the tools all around the compressor that wasnt supposed to be worked on and nobody was working on it so i then went out front to see that the lawnmower had the rear attachment removed and the mickey mouse mounting plate was removed .. So I asked what she was doing and why and then just got mad and she felt like she was being scolded in front of the kids so she then uses the reason that I hurt her feelings to turn it around and get mad at me. So then she feels that its warranted to smash things of mine, Laptop, tools..etc... and scream and yell and cause a major sc eene ALL DAY INTO THE NIGHT were she then started SMASHING more of my things then a window, Threw a tantrum in the bedroom and kicked her feet through all the wall around the bed that is set in the corner . etc...etc..... Then She tells me i am inconsiderate for even asking her to put away the tools and that I should be supportive of her for inspiring to wanna fix things and that what I ask of her shouldn't bother me and because it does I am selfish, Nit picker and she doesn't care that it bothers me she will keep taking things apart and I am oppressing her by what I ask. She then tells me I am the only person who would do this to her and anyone else would see me as a lunatic and selfish as well. Please Help me understand if I am in the wrong and understand this entire situation.
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