Hi again, Wanda and thanks for your reply with additional information.
I'm sorry to hear this sad news about your mother in law. That must be very tough on your husband and of course, also taking a toll on you, as I feel you have a good relationship with her.
I'm glad your mom improved, if just for a little bit; every bit helps.
It was in your best interest to file, but it wasn't a good idea for him to freeze all of the retirement accounts, as that action is now backfiring on him since you won't sign off. It was an action done in anger and the result is more anger for him. He will need to unfreeze those accounts so it will benefit you both.
I'm glad you did have some counseling, but 5 sessions, of course weren't quite enough. My reading has shown me that you will continue with the divorce and it will go through, but it will take some time. A lot has to be done, if he is contesting the divorce, but if it is 'uncontested', it will take a shorter amount of time.
He may never fully understand the reason you're filing for divorce and will always stick to his belief that you are 'supposed' to do everything and take care of everything and everyone, and although he may be helping 'a little', it's still not enough. He is stubborn and stuck in his ways and you have been very patient with him. The divorce is not due to lack of love. You still love each other, but he is driven by money and this will never change. That's why his first action after you filed, was the freeze all of the retirement accounts--it was like a 'reflex' action for him, but as we saw, it backed him into a corner he can't get out of easily, without your help (signing off). He will need to live by himself, as a divorced man, to realize everything you did/do for him, that he will now need to do for himself, and he will not like it at all.
I feel that even after the divorce is final, you will still see him and be in touch with him.
Things will go your way in this divorce and your future will be bright.
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