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What brings your question of fear and despair mastery today?
what kinds of fears
despair over what types of things
People have told me many times that I can't live my life in fear, but I can't help it. Sometimes, I fear that something like a hostage situation or things of that nature might happen if I go to certain places, or fly in a plane and such.
ah ok i understand
if it makes you feel any better i too have a fear of flying
in regards XXXXX XXXXX like a hostage situation
or a public situation of violence
you have to realize that while the situations can be very scary you still have your own influence on them
i really don't like public places
the idea of NYC for example immediately annoys me just because of how careless people are
i do know however that when i go places I have a certain conscious awareness of what is going on
i observe and watch people casually as im going about my day
i make sure i know where the exits are and try to observe a "smart" path around a store or busy place
so IF something should happen
i can react appropriately
i do the same when driving
im always watching in my mirrors
constantly making sure that if someone cuts me off, i have a space in another lane to make an evasive manuver
while I know i cannot control what other people do
i know i can control what I do
and will make whatever choices I need to stay safe
do you follow where i am going with this?
Yes. I do some of the things that you do too. But what can one do to stay calm, peaceful, and tranquil if one is ever a hostage in a hostage situation? What would a hostage negotiator recommend to a hostage on how he/she can find peace even in a situation of TERROR like a hostage situation? Are there any experts that are former or current hostage negotiators by any chance?
I don't think there are any hostage negotiators on site. In most cases, and you can do your own research so you know I am accurate here, most negotiators would recommend people to actually do as their captors say and follow directions given to them.
Historically, we can look at other examples and see that most situations that were resolved were actually because the police did their job, and the hostages remained calm while the situation was worked out
i think god forbid a situation like that happen
you need to remember that the police and law enforcement are doing their job
patience and a clear mind would be the best thing to have
patience being a priority
People have told me before that in situations like that, it helps to have peace with God. But what scares me about that is that I sometimes fear what if God won't forgive me because of certain sins that I may have committed in my life. As much as I try to live a good life as best as I can and have accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior and all, with so many false preachers preaching deceptive teachings, I sometimes wonder if I am getting correct information when there is something that I don't fully understand from The Bible, and since there are rumors that The Bible has been translated and changed many times from the original texts and manuscripts through the course of 2,000+ years and stuff.
Well you have realize that whatever diety you choose to follow and worship, those teachings outlined in those books have a set meaning BUT they are made for each individuals perception on them. Each person may read a bible passage, understand the information but actually take it differently
alot of people find strength and support in god or whatever diety they worship
its important to understand that god understands that each person is not perfect
as long as everyone makes a conscious effort to improve themselves for themselves as well as those around them then everything i ok
life isnt about being perfect
its about learning and improving with whatever situation you are in
I see. Thank you very much. I am just looking for some answers to help me. I will keep your information handy and refer to them if I ever need support. I am trying to rate your service, but the computer says that you are not finished yet. Was there anything more you were going to tell me? Thank you.
Well i think its really important that you focus on awareness of your surroundings when you are out
i dont like that you are uncomfortable
i personally don't have a fear of public situations like that
but when i go out, i just plain and simple sometimes dont like heavy crowds
i prefer to always know who is around me
where the exits are as I mentioned
and know that I am doing my part and will simply react as needed to changing situations
Thank you for your concern. I do certain things like when I eat at this certain restaurant, I eat at the table right next to the emergency exit. I also one time got spooked when I went to the bank because this cop all of a sudden entered the bank and he was just standing in a certain spot for a certain duration of time and just loitering. I started to wonder if he was a bad guy dressed as a cop because there was actually something about him that made me wonder if he looked like a cop. Fortunately, a few seconds later, a bank employee came out of nowhere, handed him a bag or something, and he was gone.
Ive had situations like that before - I consider myself an optimist in all respects
however i completely understand your concerns in that you really cannot be too careful
society while consistent can sometimes be unpredictable
I also have gotten many medical exams and check-ups recently and everything is good. But I still try to be as careful as I can about infectious diseases. Thank you. The computer still doesn't let me rate you.
regular checkups are always a good thing
dont forget a quality diet and exercise routine
always helps the body
and just so you know
you can request me specifically even if I am not showing online
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Thank you again.