Hello Azureoceans, How are you? So nina emailed this…

hi,

im going to call the girls in a little bit.

im going to respond to her email about the comment she made about valuing our friendship and just tell her i was a little surprised to hear her say that and just say that ive emailed her in the past when i sensed she was going through something and she wouldnt respond to them. i will also say that all ive asked is that she put her self in my shoes and that i would never ignore the girls because im trying to keep what relationship i have with them so they dont feel like strangers the couple times of year that i get to spend 2 weeks with them. i will also just re-state that she has to be careful when you talk about people because the other person doesnt know them and take what you say at face value. i will say that there is no hard feelings, im just expressing what i feel and that im not trying to attack or critize you. i will also bring up about her saying that i could have just answered the phone when they called the other day and say your number comes up as unknown and im sure there have been times when ive called and you didnt pick up because you were busy.

im curious, do you sense she is going out with him tonight?

yes, your point about her acting in diffrent was right on because it felt like she was dismissing me by saying there is people at the shop, etc and she couldnt talk.

hi,

yes, i just spoke with the girls and they said she went to the movies with brahim, her gay friend.

yes, i thought so too about how she expects me to be available when she made the effort to call and trying to make me feel guilty about the girls. its the taking me for granted that i should always be available for her when she decides to make an effort. she brought up me not answering her emails.

when you say feeling guilty, do you sense what? do you think our talk is affecting her tonight? also, do you sense what her thoughts have been about me since our talk on monday and me not answering her emails.

hi,

thats funny because i was going to say that about the non-male energy lol.

i just responded to nina's email and i said that im not angry with her and that she should know i wouldnt ignore the girls as i have tried to keep in contact with them so they wouldnt feel like strangers when i do see them for 2 weeks out of the year. i brought up the fact hat her number comes up as unknown and im sure there have been times when i called and you didnt pick up because you were busy. i also brought up allansadro and how she talked about him picking up on her young girlfriend and how she was upset that he didnt offer her and the girls a ride earlier in the summer because he was with a girl, i just said you have to be careful what you say about people because i dont know him and i took what you said at face value and that how people form opnions about situations they dont know about. i said of course i was hurt when you said you went to the park with him when you couldnt find the time to call me. i said put your seld in my shoes. i then said again, im not critizing you, im just expressing how i feel because if i didnt, it wouldnt do either of us any good. i also brought up that i was surprised at her saying she values our friendship as i have sent her emails in encourging her and she never responded. i ended it with no hard feelings and signed it with cheers XXXXX XXXXX does her emails to me.

i feel like i dont want to pick up when she tries to call again and to just let her wait a day until i call back.

when we spoke earlier. she started saying, oh, i think i have an ulcer when i brought up not knowing if the girlr went to the doctors. when i spoke with the girls, i asked again if they had been to the doctors and they said no and alima said she has a little diariah.

so how do you sense she will act in the coming days, it is good that she is starting to take ownership of her action if only when i had to stop being so availble to her because at times i feel like im intruding especially when her friends are around and she's busy.

yes, thats why i brought up the docters to her and how i how i felt about not hearing from her. in my email i did say that i care about her and the girls and course i would be worried if i dont hear anything back. yes, i didnt even respond when she said she thinks an ulcer and i was thinking if you were so sick, you wouldnt have gone out twice that week and posted the pictures, even tho she didnt look well in one of the photos and doing activities over the weekend and tonight.

when you say guarded- do you think she will start watching what she says about friends, etc; she never complains about friends when we talk, its usually about business and what her and the girls have been doing and of course if she's feeling sick.

how do you think she is going to go about fixing things? and what is the best way to respond to her moving forward? should i not answer when she calls again and wait a day before calling back? do you sense how she's going to take the email or do we have to wait until she actually reads befoee you can get a sense?

i will accept after this. thank you.

ok, if she does call tomorrow, i may just let her wait a little bit and then call back to speak with the girls. she will probably just have them talk as that what she used to do when she didnt want to talk to me, but we will see.

do you sense how she has been feeling about him since they havent been spending much time together? it seems like she is pre-occupying her time with her friends much how she did with me in Los Angeles when things were bad. does she relaise that she is no longer interested in the relationship?

have a good night.