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My name is XXXXX XXXXX you available?
Are you with me?
what type of issues are you having with the guy who rejected you?
and actually - what was the correspondence to indicate it was a "rejection" of sorts?
he is wird
how so ? Just awkward socially?
he is very attractive and girls are all over him
but yea he is awkward
never talks or even says hi to no one but me and he is all the time where I am and smiles at me and stares
Sounds like he must be used to getting attention
and almost "expecting it"
he knows my schedule to well and he seamed like he liked me
so on his birthday I inocent me tried to give him a birthday hug
and what was the response to the hug attempt?
he said he couldn't he was talking to some one else
Well in the grand scheme of things, if he is indeed seeing someone else, it is appropriate to other wise respect that
eventhough hugs in the bigger picture are relatively innocent
he may view that as a little much for him, or perhaps while in a relationship
what type of relationship at work do the two of you have otherwise?
ii didn't talk to him for niine monts avoided him as much as i could
during that time he fallowed me every where with a sad look on his face like he was sorry
I can understand how that feel a bit "weird" to you
no other relationship other than work
keep talking, im listening
ok well what is the interaction like at work?
is it strictly work? Or did you ever talk about outside work activities?
was it a bit like a friendship?
he confused me i thought he was whit some one and he continued fallowing around I tried to be more friendly but he was looking at his feet . before the hug thing
after the hug and after the 9 months avoiding him i decided that i should just be a normal coworker even though i was hurt
That is a little strange to me
i think he is probably used to people wanting to be around him
i think he probably wants that continued attention
it sounds like when you were giving him the attention (whether he liked you or not) that was playing into what he was used to and wanted
there is a possibility he is seeing someone or is in a relationship but still wants what he is used to getting, from attention and so forth
there is also a possibility he does sorta like you but is not acting on it because he is seeing someone else
months passed and we started flirting a little but he wouldn't make a move so i started flirting with another guy , he saw me and got super pissed
next thing I know the new guy I was flirting with was gone
well that immediately tells you he is playing a game
if he cant be straight with you
and he is going to basically try to get your attention but then act the way he did when you gave him attention
when he gets upset it tells you his "plan" isnt going the way he wanted to
he wants attention, but sounds like he likes the control of the situation knowing a nice girl at work likes him
and when he loses that, he tries to almost "punish" by getting mad
so i got tired off his bulshit and I asked him if he was just being polite with me or something else
i knew what he was going to say i was prepared
ahh very good
and this was he said "I am seeing someone else" ?
he said POLITE THEN i SAID WELL THEN DON'T RUN INTO ME AT ALL NOT AT MY BRAKES NOT ANY WERE
I'm tired of his games and i want to get rid of him
ok so we can start here
i think your concerns are getting your own confidence back in regards XXXXX XXXXX acting this way
is this correct?
So obviously you are limited to what you can do at work right? It s not like you can tell him to leave
he made me fel stupid and unwanted and frustrated
well its pretty clear he is playing games
he wants attention from everyone
but acts like a child when he doesnt get attention
i think there could always be miscommunication but since you asked him and he responded
its clear he is trying to have his cake and eat it too
yes he would be even more anoying this week
i just tod him
the best way to get rid of him, while building your confidence back is basically to ignore him
outside of work its important to do things to make you happy whether that is hanging out with friends, meeting new people, just doing things that you KNOW you enjoy
at work itself
the best thing would be to completely ignore him and his games
let him follow you, let him stare at you
make sure you don't look his way
ignore him like not even look at him he is very persistant lasted ( moths buging last time
make sure that you show your confidence, even if you have to kinda put on a bit of a front
pretend he doesnt exist
because its clear hes not going to do anything
give him the opposite of what he wants
he wants you to care
wants you to look
wants you to acknowledge
i don't want to care
and YOU KNOW that by doing this, it makes you feel crappy, right?
is hard when you like someone that couldn't give a rats ass about you
and there is a chance a couple things could be going on
but to be brutally honest
paying him no mind
i know i have to doit
is going to show him you don't care
think about it
if he acts like this - do you really want to be in a relationship with that?
if a female was like that with me
i wouldnt be playing games
i'll doit dang
thats really good
I'll ingnore the crap out him
what i think you will find is that he will probably get that pouty look on his face
let him act like a kid
he did today
show him that you have no interest in a man that acts like a little kid
i would even try to not even look his way
if you see him in the hall or walking
keep looking straight ahead
pretend like even though you see him in your periph, that its like hes not even there
I don't want to have anything to do with him
go about your daily work as normal
if you have to walk by, lock your eyes on the wall away from his direction
and keep walking
talk with other people, literally like he doesnt exist
it was just a fantasy I wanted but he is just not what i expected
i hear you on that
i think we can both imagine how he would act in a relationship
and really if he is in a relationship and acts like this with other women in the workplace - then thats not something you need for a relationship: an attention seeking immature kid? no thank you
i don''t like him I like his body with another personality :P
too many people like that in world
so anyway back to you
i think by doing this, since you already know you dont want anything to do with him
over the next couple of weeks you are going to feel MUCH better
i think just the satisfaction of making him realize how much of a child he acts like is probably going to make you feel so much better
tank you for listening to my sapy story
it wasnt a sap story
you needed confirmation that this guy was a baby
and wanted to make sure you did the right thing
33 year old baby
i have run into the same
some people don't grow up just old
so just so I know youre good, what are you going to NOT do on monday
ok tanxs again
not to even look at him
and you go about your day, interacting with everyone as normal
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