Hi First of all Aria is a HE....he is married but supposedly…

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Hi
First of all Aria is a HE....he is married but supposedly unhappy....we have
been friends for almost 5 years and have been through alot together...last year,
we "crossed the line" and started to get touchy feely with kissing and
hugging....his wife took a job in San Fran Jan 2011 and he and I live in San
Diego (apart of course)....his wife comes home every weekend. He tells me things
are "not good"....he seems like a good person and has alot of remorse for the
2-3 times we have exchanged kisses and hugs....I asked him to not call me until
he figures things out with his wife....he will respect my wishes for a while and
then start calling me again, but doesnt seem any closer to ending his
marriage....I have kids so I dont want to be wasting my time and energy thinking
about someone who will never become available to me as a long time partner...I
am in no rush to get married again but I do feel I am ready for a committed
relationship again....am I wasting my time waiting for him or do I just need to
cut my losses and move on...I dont want to be "just friends" with him
forever...I have strong feelings for him but I dont want to be foolishly waiting
and missing other potential opportunies for long term happiness...

pdheslin · Accepted Answer

Pam Heslin :

Hello and thank you for allowing me to read for you.

Customer:

hello

Pam Heslin :

Hello, I understand this is a difficult situation for you, let us see what kind
of guidance the cards have.

Pam Heslin :

Did you want to phrase your question in a particular way?

Customer:

ok

Pam Heslin :

for example, do you want to phrase it as, "will he leave his wife within the
next 12 months, or something like that?

Pam Heslin :

Or do you want to know if someone else will be coming for you as an opportunity?

Customer:

actually both are good ...

Pam Heslin :

Ok, let me do the "will he leave..." it's a yes/no spread of 13 cards, if one
comes up an Ace, the answer is yes.

Customer:

ok

Pam Heslin :

No Ace, some of the other cards that came up were the Devil, which is giving in
to carnal desires, 2 of Swords which is a stalemate

Pam Heslin :

Emperor, which is about authority, "Daddy" issues

Customer:

can u explain that a little further? the Carnal desires part is right on...what
is a stalemate?

Pam Heslin :

2 of Swords, swords is about thought, intellect and conflict. the card shows a
figure blindfolded (not seeing the situation clearly) with their back to the
ocean (ignoring emotions) holding up a sword in each hand, crossed over the
heart (not letting anyone in.)

Pam Heslin :

It's being caught between two opposing forces, unable to make a choice

Pam Heslin :

Shall I go on?

Customer:

yes please...if i see this correctly,, this will always be a dilemma for
him...sounds like he will never be able to decide about this and thus will never
be available correct?? can you now see if there are any other opportunities on
the horizon in the next 6-12 months???

Pam Heslin :

yes, that's exactly what I see, that he will not make a choice, that he is a
slave to his inner demons, like an addict.

Pam Heslin :

I will go on to the next question about other opportunities

Customer:

ok

Pam Heslin :

The first card I pulled was the Ace of Cups, this is the absolute best card that
indicates a new love on the horizon, a new period of emotional joy, spiritual
renewal, and for married folk it means a new baby, so think of the joy that a
new baby brings, and that is what you will feel

Pam Heslin :

The next card is significant as well....it's the 10 of Swords Reversed. This is
a card that is better reversed than upright, it means the end of a bad period,
and a new day dawning.

Pam Heslin :

It means the worst is over, it means an ending that had to happen, but it's
over. When I do readings, it's come to mean the "healing from the divorce" card.

Customer:

oh wow...since I have 3 kids i can relate to that ....will I be able to easily
recognize this new opportunity?? I can be a little guarded and naive... and I
want to be sure that my children will be happy with this new phase as well as
they are very important to me and my happiness

Pam Heslin :

I also got the 3 of Pentacles. This is the "team work" and craftsmenship card.
Are you employed?

Customer:

yes i own my own business

Pam Heslin :

Ok, this also means professional associations etc. so if you belong to any
professional networking groups, that might be the place you meet this person.

Customer:

oh wow...I do...what about my children??

Pam Heslin :

Ace of wands, also new beginnings, Wands are about action, passion and growth.
Ace is new cycles, new beginnings.

Pam Heslin :

I pulled that card before you asked about your kids

Pam Heslin :

Wheel of Fortune for the kids...this means that sometimes you have to let go and
let God...surrender to the Higher Power's ability to manage the situation.

Customer:

oops ok...can I ask about my children now...will they be ok and able to embrace
the new person? I am very spiritual and do believe that God will take care of
us....

Pam Heslin :

You have be willing to spin the wheel knowing you don't know exactly how it will
turn out. It will be ok :)

Customer:

ok....my children mean the world to me....I want the absolute best for
them...this makes me teary with excitment and happiness....its been a long hard
past 5 years

Pam Heslin :

I know what you mean, my little guy is my world too :)

Pam Heslin :

I have a 10 year old and I wouldn't be able to be with a guy he didn't feel
comfortable with

Pam Heslin :

So I hope this has been helpful...I know these are tough decisions to make.

Customer:

yes and we want to protect them with every ounce of what we can...they deserve
the best I can give them////my 12 year old son had a really hard time coz his
dad is so emotionally unavailable, my 10 yr old son and 7 yr old dtr seem to be
doing ok but its so hard to be 2 parents....

Pam Heslin :

I feel for you, I really do. I know what an emotionally unavailable father can
do to a kid (me) ..when my folks split in the 70's they knew nothing about
getting therapy for kids

Customer:

yes i have had my kids in counselling for over 2 years...we have a wonderful
"surrogate dad" counsellor who the kids adore....I just dont want some other guy
coming in to mess up all the hard work I have done with my kids...my parents
were each divorced 3 times and it took me until I was 30 to heal....I just want
to find a wonderful partner now to share my life with and enjoy my kids...sounds
like it might be coming soon....I am sorry your parents werent there for u...its
so hard...

Pam Heslin :

It is definately coming soon. Please don't wait for your friend, he's where he
is by choice. GO to those professional association events.

Pam Heslin :

I have to sign off now, and I wish you the absolute best! If this has been
helpful, please let me know by clicking "Accept" :)

Customer:

sounds like a plan...I actually recently met a new guy at one of these events
last month...seems like a nice person but time will tell....thanks so much for
your help....I have been really stuck over this married guy...take care

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