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My parents are pressuring me to do well in school. Im in college,

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My parents are pressuring me to do well in school. I'm in college, and since middle school I haven't done well. I don't know why, but I've decided that "the school system and I just don't get along."

I failed two classes last semester, and I've already dropped a class this semester. My parents don't know; if they found out, they would hit the roof and call me a slacker like always. I can't focus on the material! I end up doodling, journaling, or reading instead. I'm a quiet person, definitely not type A, and don't do well in concrete subjects like math and science (guess what two classes I failed last semester?). I like artsy things, but there isn't a major for it that can get me a "good career" (parental wording, not mine.)

I'm scared I'm wasting my life in school, but more than that, I'm scared of wasting my life and coming away with nothing. I want to live life, have a career and a family, but how can I? I think the important things are things schools can't test or teach. Help me?
Submitted: 7 years ago.
Category: General
Expert:  Joan replied 7 years ago.


What are your likes and what do you feel you are good at?

Do you do cartooning?

Do you like to write?

You say you are not good in the core subjects, what are your strengths?

I would love to assist you with this. Joan


Customer: replied 7 years ago.
Thanks in advance.

I like to sing and dance, but I'm not exceptional at either. I've auditioned for the college dramatic productions twice and have been shot down both times. I like to cook, sew, read, and write, though I'm not strong in competitive environments.

I've tried and enjoyed cartooning in the past, and would love to go back to it when I get time. I've thought multiple times about creating a comic of my own, but can't seem to find the opportunity.

I love to write. I participate in both the NaNoWriMo and the Script Frenzy every year, which does nothing for my school performance but helps my self-esteem immensely.

In high school, I excelled in English and French. Now that I'm in college, I've been unable to continue French, but have taken up sign language, I am learning quickly and am doing very well.

Does that help?
Expert:  Joan replied 7 years ago.


The formal education is not for everyone, but with that said all parents would love to have the child exceed in College. At this point you may want to sit with your parents and re think your options for school. There are technical colleges where the focus are not on the core subjects, but real life subjects that can get you a good career. You mention writing a comic. Many of the cartoonist have no formal education, but have been to a technical school. The are of sign language can get you a job within government as a translator for the higher officials. A high skill in foriegn language can land you a Job as a translator in an Embassy. I think it may be time to sit down with your parents and discuss the possibility of a Technical institute for furthering your education where you can focus on something you would like to do rather than focusing on the core subjects that you are having problems with right now. Please do not discount the core subjects as they are important. Below are some ideas that may help you with going toward a technical career. The key is to be patient with your parents, as a Parent myself I understand how we want our child to achieve the best in life. Joan

Expert:  Joan replied 7 years ago.


One of my links did not post. Here it is on Frech translator jobs:

Customer: replied 7 years ago.
I suppose what my follow-up question has to be is, how do I get into these schools? My transcript is a wreck and I can barely afford community college. It's been made quite clear that I am expected to have a master's degree before I stop my schooling, and I'm not sure how to break it to my family that a technical school might be/is better.
Expert:  Joan replied 7 years ago.


Depending where you are located, there are many Technical Schools located in close proximity to large cities and small towns. You can apply for a Pell Grant and school loans as they do offer help. It may not be easy, but you need to be open and tell your parents what you would like to do in a controlled atmosphere. Even have a meeting with your school counselor who can bring your patents in and have all of you together and discuss what will be best for you. There is no shame in going to a Technical School and getting a good Job. The key now would be to make a decision what you would like to focus on, set up where you would like to go and then present the proposal to your parents. The more prepared you are and armed with education and information on salary and possibility of a secure job, the easier it will be to get them to see it your way. I would suggest a school counselor help you and be there for support. Joan

Edited by Joan on 2/17/2010 at 4:26 AM EST
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