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ANSWER: In my opinion, when it comes to custody of children, I always think it is best to get an attorney. They are best positioned to know the courts, judges, and tendencies of those parties, as well as how to prepare and form a case far better than a layperson would. But I can't tell ou whether you should go to court or not. That is not my job, since I am not your attorney and I do not know your case or have any of the records before me.
I do want to say that there is nothing wrong with having beers at home, wehther the children are awake or not. AS long as it is not affecting your parenting in a negative way and it is not affecting the children in a negative way (i.e., it is not in the best interest of the children if it were), this, alone, would not be a basis for changing up the current arrangement, if the current arrangement is in the best interests of the child.
The one thing I would say, from my sister's own experience, is that you can agree to give him all of the other things he wants, but that does not prevent him from still seeking a change in the custody down the line, or reneging on an agreement he made with you. So I'm not convinced that would be a permanent solution.
Obviously, if you do not want to go to court, I think the next best thing would be mediation. And a court might actually order you to go through that first. But based on what you are telling me, for a court to change the current custody arrangement, there would have to be some showing that it would be in the best interests of the children, and if very little has changed and they are thriving, I find it hard to believe that a change in custody would be granted. But yes, at least a consultation with an attorney would be a good idea.
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