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My son (21 years old) has a child and he is not married to the mother (20 years old) but they are in a relationship. Should they break up, what are the chances that he would get custody. They currently both live with me with the child. They are not able to survive on their own. Her family is on government assistance and father is a heroin addict.
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Sean K
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Hi, I’m Sean and I will be assisting you as an expert today. I’m an attorney with more than 20 years of experience. It is my goal to provide a solid overview of your situation. Whether the analysis is good or bad as to your matter, I want to make sure you understand any points you need and that you have options to better address the questions you have. If I am able, I will also provide you with some resources. Please note that the system, independent from me, may offer a phone call. You are not obligated to engage in a phone call, but I am happy to speak if you desire. This is completely up to you.

It is always a good thing to ask questions in advance before problems arise. First, i hope they don't break up and this does not become an issue, but there are things that can be done now to best situation your son for custody if something does or were to happen.

The main thing is to make sure that he is involved. He should be focused on the care, feeding and nurturing of the child. He should be going to doctor's visits, he should be involved with the daycare, he should be doing an equal part of everything with the child. He should also take steps to show that his residence is the primary residence for the child - the address should be for the point of contact and make sure he is listed on all records.

Have you son spend time around other people with his child so you can have witness statements if necessary on how he interacts with and how he spends time with his son.

The goal is to have him be involved no so much so that if something does happen she has already allowed him to be an active participant in the child's life so he could seek custody if he wanted.

In New York, if there is no Court order, both parents have equal rights to the child. So even if she left, she absent her getting a Court Order, could not take away those rights. I mention this as sometimes people believe the Mother has a preference, but this is not the case.

The Courts look at what is best for a child and the best way to prove this is to show that things, like I have said above, have already occurred or are occurring.

That having been said, if she does try to leave and she tries to take his child, be careful about any violence around the child as that could be a problem later on. It would be best if they were to break up if she left and the child stayed. But if she does leave and takes the child, he will need to get a lawyer and get to Court immediately. If she leaves and has nowhere to go, he could likely get the child back on an emergency basis and go from there.

Please note: This is general information for educational purposes only and is not legal advice. There is no specific course of action is proposed and no attorney-client relationship or privilege formed within this conversation.

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