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I am very sorry to hear about this situation.
.Community property and debt is split equitably which means fair, but necessarily 50/50. In case of titled assets such as homes, cars, etc., it usually is awarded to one party and that party is ordered to make an “equalizing payment” to the other party. For example, a car worth $10k will be given to the wife but the wife is ordered to make a payment of 5k to the husband. Time to make the payments or payment plans are a norm in such a situation. Equalizing payments can also be ordered if one party argues a “fault.” Generally, one party simply alleges irreconcilable differences. However, most states retain grounds for divorce where one party alleges fault when divorcing, such as neglect, assault, affair, etc, and because of this, the Court can award that party additional equalizing payments.
So assuming someone in your situation plans to argue the fault of divorce, this would likely help you get a bigger share of the marital property if the fault is proven. This also likely means more chance at getting the home.
IF YOU WANT TO GET THE HOME
Then someone in your situation does not want to relocate. By relocating, one is sending the message to the court - "I don't need the home." It is better to ask the Court for temporary orders that HE relocate as part of the divorce.
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