The noncustodial parent's mother
keeps calling CPS and having other people call CPS for her to harass us since she does not have grounds to force grandparents visitation
rights. So far all have been ruled out to my knowledge, although CPS told me that in my past there was an unable to complete because they could not find me and a reason to belive from what must be over 14 years ago because they claimed it concerned medical neglect on a diaper rash they thought I should have got treatment for earlier, but I do not recall anything of that sort.
I recorded the last meeting where I asked them if there were any outstanding concerns or areas they thought we needed improvement in and they gave none, simply giving anecdotes about things people may make assumptions about,etc. The CPS workers have told us our house wasn't messy and that they didn't have any reason to take my kids away or they would have done so the first visit, but said that due to the amount of calls their system automatically transferred us to FBSS.
The FBSS worker is wanting to meet with us tomorrow for their own 'initial assessment' but they mentioned wanting the oldest boys to attend counselling. None of the complaints involved their mental health and the lady could not give me a reason why they were recommending it. The kids don't want to go and we don't want to sign up for any services or make any commitments with them, although if there is a valid concern they can bring to me I'd be happy to address it.
Should I go find my own counselor to have them assessed to show they don't need counselling or should I just politely tell them I decline FBSS services. I have heard sometimes they can use it against us in court if we decline seevices, but I do not want them to interview my kids again or hinder our lives in any way.. my husband already lost one of his jobs and over an entire months rent of income jumping to do drug tests and medical assessments for them because they stated if we waited until he was off work they would count us as testing positive.
We can't find any attorneys near us who will call us back and FBSS starts their assessment tomorrow How can I best show them I am concerned without subjecting my kids to moread interrogations or committing to services we don't need?
Should I offer to get my own provider to sign off anything they ask us to do on my own dime and send them the report or will it be bad enough for thme that I don't have the kids around to intreview that I should just politely decline all services? Id be happy to let them drop by as often as they'd ,Ike to do wellness checks but I feel like they are using FBSS to try to find anything to use against me since they haven't thus far in all these investigations.