My abusive elder sibling is the trustee,of my inheritance. Growing up he was mean and temperamental and so forth, but he appeared to grow into a trustworthy adult with some financial acumen. At the time the will was written I had just become engaged for the 2nd time, my first marriage
, to someone who wound up living on my income and stealing from me, having ended in divorce
. My dad wanted to protect my inheritance because of this recent past, and included an in terrorem clause in the will.
I learned quickly that absolute power corrupts absolutely. Trustee's response to my first request for a small amount of funds ($800 out of $250,000) was "No, because I have my kids' college and my retirement to think of." One othet, of many instances of egregious behavior on the part if trustee is in 2014 he took money from my trust for himself. When I wouldn't sign a document for the Commissioner of Accounts saying everything was ok with the trust because of this, trustee withheld my money from me for four months, despite knowing that I needed it by then for rent, food and medicine; I have Crohns and was in the hospital for a month in 2011, which trustee knew. I wound up in the hospital again in 2015 because of trustee's actions. The Va. Commissioner Accounts even still did not remove him.
I need an attorney and advocate who recognizes that the in terrorem clause is allowing abuse and is violating my civil rights, or
The abuse continues. I have Crohns and it makes it an additional challenge to return to the workforce (I'm a business librarian, laid off in 08. I had requested funds for job training to advance my skills and make me a really unique, desirable job candidate; trustee responded "No, it's not your money and I can do anything I want and you can't do anything about it."
Thank you for your attention, and for any suggestions, referral and/or representation you may be able to offer.