Thanks for asking for me.
You asked: Besides, she wants us to go to counseling to restore our relationship. Is this okay ? Actually, under CT law either party of a divorce action may petition the judge for what is known as conciliation and the judge has the ability to order the couple to participate in at least 2 sessions of counseling. Neither party can be forced to reconcile, but the court does have the ability to order the counseling.
Can I not file a motion to dismiss her case ? Well, if your reason for wanting to file a Motion to Dismiss is because you just don't want a divorce, or because you would rather have the divorce heard in a different state---no you cannot do that. CT allows one person in a marriage to decide to end it through divorce and the other person cannot prevent that. The first person to file for divorce and serve the other party determines the state that will hear the divorce.
If she has already filed for divorce in CT and you have been served with the complaint for divorce, then you are stuck with CT as the venue for divorce.
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