The vast majority of cases filed seek involuntary termination. These cases are almost always brought by the State and the petition sets forth detailed information and facts to support the grounds alleged.
The grounds alleged must be proven by the State by clear, convincing and satisfactory evidence. There are seventeen grounds that can be alleged. They include:
Child in Continuing Need of Protection or Services. This occurs where there is in place a dispositional order that governs a child in need of protection or services, reasonable efforts have been made to help the child and family reunite but the parent has failed to take advantage of the programming and services offered. see 48.415(2)(a).
Or: Abandonment. Child away from parent, parent could visit or communicate but does not for 6 months. OR: Continuing Parental Disability. For two of the last five years the parent has been under disability, the condition is likely to go on indefinitely and the child is not being properly cared for.
Of these 17 grounds, most often the State alleges three grounds: Abandonment - 3 or 6 months, Continuing Need for Protection or Services, and Failure to Assume Parental Responsibility.
You can go over the judge's head by talking to the county DA or DHS and find out whether they will take your case. Make sure you give them sufficient information as to what's been going on. This will help with your custody case. It seems to me that you do indeed have enough things that have happened to the mother and to the children. You can contact the DA or DHS without an attorney.