I am a 57 year old with a 17 year-old daughter (turns 18 in August and will be going to college), looking for a divorce
. We have been separated for 2 years, as a result of his increasing verbal abuse and treatment of our daughter and bought a house on my own (he is renting). He has his own art business (Japanese woodblock prints), which he built while I was (mostly) supporting us during our 17-year marriage
I left a job right before the financial crash, and for the next several years drained the majority of my 401k accounts to support us, while he continued to build his business. I now have a very large tax liability and am working with a company to attempt to come to some resolution where I will hopefully end up owing only a portion of the total amount (close to $100K).
Over the past two years I have been consulting and had to drain the remainder of my 401Ks as well as the equity in my life insurance. During this time, Peter had paid half of Emma's tuition (she is ADHD and required a smaller, private school), and has recently been paying half of her health insurance, with me absorbing all other expenses.
While I am eager just to file a quickie divorce, my father (who will help with legal expenses), is adamant that I not just walk away, given the extreme emotional duress I have suffered due to trying to survive financially..and feels that we need a forensic account to determine the value of his inventory (much of which he bought under the table with cash from a dealer up in New Haven, CT)--at one point (a few years ago), he estimated that it was valued at $250K, yet his tax accountant always seems to show minimal income from the business...
At the end of the day I need counsel to determine a recommendation as to how to proceed and what I should expect, process-wise, time-frames and expected financial outlay.
Appreciate any and all responses.