Hi, I live in Florida. I was in a very happy and progressive relationship with my boyfriend when his ex who is also the mom of his two kids (never married), and who also knew we were together decided to start drama by going through some measures to access his Facebook and harass and stalk me. She mentioned that she knew where I lived and continued to harass me and cyberstalk eventually through his email. She threatened to take kids out of the country and that he'd never see them again, and after being violent and my boyfriend also stating that she's violent in front of the kids, we resulted in ending our relationship. She continued to cyber stalk, and text even putting my life at risk having me followed. She also defamed my character by attempt to tarnish by spreading the rumors that I was a prostitute and adulterer. Long story short, I have a restraining order
against her, then for fun, she took one out on me. Allegations made were false and unfinished sentences to appear as a possible threat. She had her pastor involved, and he saw right through her B.S... he stays in touch with me and offered his help if needed. He invited me to his church two weeks ago in which I was cautious about going to, and he assured that after all of us had our conference call, over a month ago, she has not been present for service, even after he attempt to contact them. (My boyfriend had to go back to stay with his kids because of the threats to the kids and the fact that she is violent, and feels the need to protect his kids). I took the pastor up on his assurance that I could go, and stayed the entire time. At the very end literally, of service, she shows up, and decided to sit directly behind me. Knowing that I'm blonde, I was the ONLY blonde there. My guess is a friend of hers alerted her I was there. Service had already ended and sitting with my back turned, once I realize it was her, I did a 180° and left peacefully in the presence of everyone. I never returned since, and have no plans to. After having so much evidence of her harassment and stalking for over a month, I didn't pursue it because it was stupid to me and I hoped it would have ended. But once I realize by her recent text of herself in a courtroom hinting her restraining order against me, I was so upset and without knowing how the process works, I sent a message that I would fight the restraining order. At the time, I thought it was just to keep me away. I didn't know it meant no contact. I went for the documents the next day in addition to being served by the officer.QUESTION--If I was not served by the officer and texted the day before that I would pursue a case, would I be violating the restraining order? Also, if the pastor invited me and I have the proof of their absence in church attendance, AND left as soon as I realize it was her, did I violate the restraining order?
ALSO, I struggle with depression and anxiety and have a tendency to shut down, no communication with anyone. I am on anxiety medicine because of her and on Facebook, she went through our messages read all our date ideas and literally made him do them with her and posted it publicly for me to see. This caused a lot of distress for me. She added his workplace on the restraining order, just so that we can't see or communicate, and I SHARED her photo on MY Facebook page, and spoke about the incident, as friends and family expressed their concern in regards ***** ***** silence. Keep in mind, we are NOT FRIENDS on Facebook, so I cannot TAG her in the photo, which WOULD BE violating because it means directly NOTIFYING her, AND LINKING her Facebook page. What I did was SHARE the photo and spoke about it on MY Facebook page, as her setting for the photo was set to PUBLIC... IF we were friends, I could see her photo if it was PUBLIC or set to FRIENDS. BUT we're not friends. Did I violate?