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It is not a good idea to not show up. The judge has a few choices. They can award the mother anything she requests, including her attorney fees, they can set a continuance to hold you in contempt of court, which could result in your being fined or arrested or the judge may do nothing.
If you and your wife can agree then you should call her attorney and see if you can just present an agreed order.
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