Family Law Questions? Ask a Family Lawyer Online.
You're the one who is under court mandate and who can get arrested for violating the order. Your ex is not supposed to be using the order as a weapon against you and trying to have contact with you, but she is not the subject of the order.
If this is a criminal order, talk to your lawyer so that your lawyer alerts the prosecutor to warn his complainant to behave herself. But either way you should have nothing to do with her while the order is in effect. She can get you rearrested in a heartbeat if she changes her mind about having anything to do with you, even if she was the one who sought you out.