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The wife of another man and myself have been having an affair

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The wife of another man and myself have been having an affair off and on for 3 years. We have been caught 3 times. The first two times she did not want any contact with me at all so she can try and fix her marriage. Which i agreed upon and did not have any contact or attempt to contact her. She would contact me again and we would start up our relationship again. This final time we got caught (3rd time) and after a time period of which she wanted time to herself and figured which avenue of she wanted to go. She ended up going back to him again.. Now he wants her to prove to him that its over and wants her to file a restraining order against me. I already have stopped contact with her after she made her decision to go back with him. Do i need to do something to protect myself from this? I know restraining orders are civil matters and not criminal.

For a restraining order to be granted, the petitioner must prove that they are the victim of an act of violence, a threat of violence or harassing or stalking behavior. As you've explained it, the two of you had a consensual relationship that did not involve any violence, threats of violence or harassing or stalking behavior. Assuming this to be correct, I don't see that this woman would have any legitimate ability to obtain a restraining order.

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Customer: replied 3 years ago.
Well a little more information i would like to know please.
This husband i have had to deal with. Has threatened me via texts and thru others. Never in person or via phone. I have saved all those threats this whole time. All have been hollow threats. Until this last time when we got caught. He said " i am coming after you, and i will destroy your family life". Which i sorta took serious. I did find that he friended my daughter and my sister on facebook. I did get mad with that. He crossed the line and i called him up, which he would not talk to me and i told him right there. Back off my family and we are done. Can that be construed as a threat against him?

Put in context, I don't see your words amounting to a threat. It appears that everyone acknowledges that you had an affair with this man's wife and that you two were "caught" on several occasions. Further, it appears that he actually sent you several texts that might be considered threatening in nature. BotXXXXX XXXXXne, it does not seem that he has the basis of a legitimate restraining order either.

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Just a thought, but you might consider an exit strategy. Perhaps you could send an email stating something along the lines of your relationship with his wife having come to a conclusion and you would agree to stay away from him and his family so long as he does the same for you. If you were to follow such a strategy, it would be important to keep things as professional as possible, if things became anything less than cordial, you might consider simply ending the contact.

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Customer: replied 3 years ago.
Thank you for this information and your exit strategy. I will consider this seriously. Thank you again
Best of luck to you!