goes to an adult day care run by the county of Sacramento.
She is currently living with my sister, Lisa.
Lisa and 6 other sisters are in conflict.
The conflict does not relate to the current care of our mother.
5 of the 6 siblings live out of town/state.
Several siblings have called Lisa so they can speak with our mother.
It's been several weeks and Lisa has not returned their calls/texts.
I live in town - On Friday I went to visit my mother at adult day care.
I made a call to one sister who lives in Indiana and put her on speaker to visit with our mother.
Suddenly, a worker there asked if I Lisa was aware of my visit. I asked if I needed Lisa's permission to visit my own mother. They said yes because Lisa is in charge. I said that Lisa is only Power of Attorney. She is not guardian or conservator. The woman responded that they are the same thing and it didn't matter. Another worker who is an actual Social Worker came out of her office and said Lisa warned us about you, she said to make sure you do not get your mother to sign anything! She also said, Lisa is in charge she even showed us the document that states that she is in charge of making the decisions!
I told her that Power of Attorney doesn't take away my mother's ability to choose whether to see her other daughters or not.
Anyway, these two women made some awful accusations and spoke to my mother one inch from her face and told her make sure SHE doesn't make you sign anything or try to talk you into moving!
I was floored because our conversation with our mother had nothing to do with moving as my sister cannot and would not have my mother move to a cold environment. I already have an international student living with me so I wouldn't want my mother to move in.
I called the Adult Protection Agency and they got my side of the story. However, when they called the adult day care to get their side, the social worker named Donna outright lied to APS telling them that I was trying to talk my mother into moving out of Lisa's house! She claimed she nor the other worker ever even mentioned anything about my sister being in charge nor Lisa ever showing them the Power of Attorney paper. Donna told APS she was doing her job by intervening since we were upsetting our mother in trying to talk her into leaving her current home!
My sister and I are speechless as we, especially my mother and I, were affected by the accusations, etc.
Is there anything that can be done to Donna and the other office worker for causing such a scene. I was so upset Friday I couldn't return to work. It was a long weekend with Monday being the holiday, so I couldn't contact APS or anyone. I didn't go in to work on Tuesday either as I was still so upset I just had to address this issue. When I received a return call yesterday from APS learning they did not believe my complaint was as I had described I am even more devastated. I feel they tarnished my relationship with my mother as she will associate all the commotion with me. She cannot speak clearly due to a series of strokes so she can't make her point known nor would she as she's so nervous about all the changes in her life.
Is there anything I can do either civil or otherwise?