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Unfortunately, unless the court orders that Friend of the Court is waived, in MI all support goes through them and the reason is to help insure payments are properly made and tracked. Any party can ask the court for an order to allow direct payments and that is in the discretion of the court to allow for good cause.
Courts are bound in setting support by the statutory guidelines set forth by the MI legislature. The court MAY deviate from those guidelines only for good cause. if the judge did not find good cause to lower your payments, you have a right to file an appeal of the judge's decision to the appeals court for review and determine whether or not the judge abused his discretion in refusing to lower your payments based on the needs of your other two children. That is your legal recourse in the matter for the lowering of the support.
To seek to pay your ex directly, you need to get the court approval to not go through Friend of Court.
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