2 state jurisdiction/military divorce
-My husband, our biological 10.5 month old baby, my 13 yo daughter from a prior, and I all live in NC.
-My husband, my daughter, and I moved here from our home state, Iowa. He and I both grew up in Iowa; both of our families are there. We had our biological child in NC.
-We intended to move back to Iowa from NC once he was out of the military; he has reenlisted since then.
-My husband has anger issues amongst other things.
***If I take my kids back home to Iowa and file a Protective Order there, could my husband take steps in NC, requiring me to have to return to NC with my baby, (citing NC jurisdiction and home state/uniform child custody
act/etc)? Or would Iowa have jurisdiction then? terrified, with his past and anger issues, that he have any sort of alone time with the baby.
***NC lawyer says stay and file in NC and ask judge to leave in temp custody order
***IA lawyers says come home to Iowa and file Protective Order.
What is your opinion? Please let me know what state you're licensed in.