Divorced from my first wife many years ago. We had two sons, one of whom died as a teenager. My other son became emancipated and left home. He is now in his thirties. The divorce
was not pleasant, and being young and dumb at the time, I just ignored paying the child support
. I have the paperwork from Tulsa County Courts that says the arrearage was for a total amount of $22,396.46 and covered May 1, 1984 thru February 28, 2003. There was also a paragraph in the paperwork that referred to interest accruing at 10% a year starting when I first got behind. I have been employed by the City of Tulsa for over ten years now and payments of $200/month, have continuously been taken directly out of my paychecks. After finally receiving a pin number and case number XXXXX access the DHS
website to observe the history of my payments in this regard, I still was not able to make sense of any of it. I personally called the DHS office and spoke to a child support worker who informed me that even after consistently paying all these years, I stilled owed a total of $34,838.86 because of all the interest that has accrued. I find it unbelievable that I am still required to pay this horrible sum of money back for DHS to forward to my exwife every month when my son was emancipated and left home many years ago.
Recently, in December 2012, I suffered my third heart attack and underwent a triple bypass. I was remained admitted to St. Francis hospital for over a month. I suffered a stroke at some point close to the surgery, which has affected my vision in both eyes. There is hope that my vision will come back, but I've been told that may possibly take six months to a year before that happens, if it even does happen. I possibly might lose my employment with the City if my vision does not return soon. If this happens, I will be forced to pursue disability, and am worried about having enough money to survive each month, much less any more to continue making child support payments for my adult son.
I totally understand the necessity for strong child support guidelines
, however in this particular case, the only person who benefits from the thousands of dollars of interest that has accrued in my case is the mother
, Could someone please tell me if there is a way to get this dropped, stopped or modified, and how much out of pocket money I will need to come up with to get this to happen?
Please answer to my email address,XXX@XXXXXX.XXX.