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You had the right to be compensated for the things that you did for her, just as a private contractor would have been compensated if she had to hire people to do those things. Just so you were not compensated more than another person or company would have received. To that extent, the money was "spent" by her and is gone. The balance of anything that you took is, in essence, a loan to you from her. The loan has gone bad because you cannot repay it. So, she has no money and that is that. That is how you address this situation.
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