Family Law

Family Law Questions? Ask a Family Lawyer Online.

Ask a Lawyer,
Get an Answer ASAP!

Family Law

hi Lucy, I just received a letter from my ex and i think he

Customer Question
hi Lucy, I just received a...
hi Lucy,
I just received a letter from my ex and i think he is trying to extort me or blackmail me. can i send this letter to you and see what you think? I really need help.
thanks
Submitted: 6 years ago.Category: Family Law
Show More
Show Less
Ask Your Own Family Law Question
Answered in 1 minute by:
4/1/2011
Family Lawyer: Lucy, Esq., Lawyer replied 6 years ago
Lucy, Esq.
Lucy, Esq., Lawyer
Category: Family Law
Satisfied Customers: 30,602
Experience: Attorney with experience in family law.
Verified
Hi,

Is there a way you can just type some of the passages you're wondering about? That way, you can edit out identifying information or other stuff that may be confidential.
Ask Your Own Family Law Question
Customer reply replied 6 years ago

FOR SETTLLEMENT PURPOSES ONLY, AND NOT ADMISSIBLE FOR ANY PURPOSE IN ANY COURT PROCEEDING

 

Me,

 

The telephone calls and the emails made in the last two weeks with the intention of settling this legal battle did show effort on your part. The problem is you really don't have anything to negotiate with.

 

I saw the house/sale offer and the threat of appeal, but neither holds water. First, the house should already be on the market. Not negotiable.

 

Of course you can appeal to a higher court to further delay, waste time and money. Since you were not successful in your first appeal, and I am reasonably confident you won't be in the future. If your strategy is to further delay your obligations, the courts will not tolerate it. In fact we fully intend to get a favorable ruling tomorrow that you will be responsible for my attorney fees incurred and lost wages as a result of this continued nonsense. Your sanctions will only keep growing and there really is no need for that to happen.

 

You are in trouble Me. You need to see this - everyone else does. Tomorrow, you will be held in contempt of court and you will be arrested and locked up. Your first contempt of court count (cash) bond will be equal to the amount of money the court has mandated you owe me. ($7K). You will not be released until it is paid in full. I fear that the judge will also hold you in contempt for the other matter as well.

 

I am sure you think that your March payments will gain you favor in the courts. It is an effort, but not nearly enough. I am trying to get you to stop and not force the court to do the inevitable. I do not want this to happen. I have never wanted this to happen but you keep going and going. Your futile actions are causing this. This is not the result of anything I have done or am doing. STOP!

 

I propose we craft a final agreement and prevent this from going any further.

 

My Requirements - Must be accepted before the hearing @ 2:00 on Friday - 4/1/11

 

  • 1. I have permanent primary custody of our son, you will get unsupervised visitation every other weekend when and if our son obtains a C average at school. Until then, visitation remains the same (supervised at scan). In the event that you bad mouth me to the our son, calls DSS, file another bullshit DVO, or otherwise attempt to further interfere with my relationship with our son, you forfeit this offer and your parental rights will be terminated.

 

  • 2. You will immediately catch up child support; medical and child care expenses that you owe me, and continue to pay child support in accordance with the prior order of the court. This must be automated through the state of NC Child Support Centralized Collections

 

  • 3. You will immediately catch up the sanctions payments ordered, and continue to pay against my attorney's fees you have been ordered to satisfy.
  • 4. You will allow me to have my choice of furniture/possessions from the house

 

  • 5. The house itself is yours (including the debt). If you can refi/sell/make some money as alleged great as long as my name comes off the notes immediately. Otherwise you list the house by April 7, 2011 and move out by April 21, 2011.

 

  • 6. My retirement is mine, you have no claim. Your accounts are yours, except I want our sons savings account and every savings bond of the kids.

 

  • 7. You will apologize to me and to our son for what you have done, and make sure that our son understands that you fully approve of him having a good relationship with me. This must be done in writing, and Me you must recognize the fact that what you have done is atrocious and your actions have actually harmed Alex. Some bullshit apology will not suffice. Me, you must first admit, then own, and then explain how the acts have affected me and our son, and then you must express true remorse for those actions. Only then can there be the true closure that my brother seeks for all.......

 

A year ago I offered to drop the motion to vacate the child custody orders if you just agreed to vacate the DVO? You refused. I can only assume XXX pushed you to take the deal, but you refused to negotiate at all. If you would have taken it, everything would be different. You have played hard ball all along, and now you are in trouble.

 

Now it is time and you must agree to the conditions above.

 

This is what you will get in exchange:

 

  1. You do not go to jail tomorrow for intentionally not complying with Judge XXX order to pay child support and sanctions.

 

  1. You do not go to jail tomorrow for intentionally communicating with the Judge Ex-Parte by placing letters from you and your mother in the sealed envelope for the court.

 

  1. You will not end up paying all of my attorney's fees for having to fight against the frivolous appeal that you filed from the last order and were denied.

 

  1. You do not get sanctioned by the court of appeals for your inability to comply with their rules (you have already violated several);

 

  1. You get to live in the home you so desperately wanted at the inception of this case. (as long as we transfer ownership and financial responsibility to you and completely remove my name from the property)

 

  1. You will get to actually see your son in a conventional environment whereby you MAY be able to have a relationship as long as you behave.

 

I know you think you can change the judge's decisions, but it is not going to happen.

 

Please carefully consider this and agree to stop this nonsense.

Family Lawyer: Lucy, Esq., Lawyer replied 6 years ago
The letter is harsh, but it doesn't fall within the category of blackmail or extortion. It sounds like he's trying to scare you.

Blackmail is when a person threatens to reveal something about a person in order to gain a benefit. The judge already has the facts in front of him, so there's nothing for him to learn. Extortion involves communicating threats in order to get something of value, but it's not a threat if someone says that he's going to pursue his legal options. If you hit my car, and I tell you that I'm going to sue if you don't pay me for the damage, that's not considered a threat, because I'm allowed by law to do it.

If he does already have a court order against you, and he reasonably believes that you're out of compliance with it, he can get a contempt order. This is common - the threat of contempt exists as a way of getting litigants to comply with the court's order. He also has a right to request attorneys' fees, although whether he would actually be entitled to them is based on all the facts, and I don't have all the facts. Everything else is just his final settlement offer, which you are free to accept or reject, although it sounds like you have to make a decision quickly.
Ask Your Own Family Law Question
Customer reply replied 6 years ago

can i tale this to court and use it against him.

 

 

Family Lawyer: Lucy, Esq., Lawyer replied 6 years ago
You can bring it to court, but I'm not sure how effective it will be against him. If you're going in on a complaint that he filed for contempt, his statements that you will lose aren't really going to hurt him. If he didn't think he would win, it wouldn't make any sense to file.

If you think that it would somehow help your case to bring the letter to court with you, you can do so.
Ask Your Own Family Law Question
Customer reply replied 6 years ago

so that statement at top of the page has no validity?

 

Family Lawyer: Lucy, Esq., Lawyer replied 6 years ago
I'm sorry. I must have missed that part. Statements made for the purpose of settlement are not admissible. Since it clearly states at the top that the statement is for settlement purposes only, it can't be introduced.
Ask Your Own Family Law Question
Customer reply replied 6 years ago
ok, thank you so very much on this quick asking for your help. I really hate these threats and it just brings back too many bad memories of what he has done to me and obviously wants to continue to do to me.
Customer reply replied 6 years ago

thank you so very much on this quick asking for your help. I really hate these threats and it just brings back too many bad memories of what he has done to me and obviously wants to continue to do to me.

 

I appreciate all of your help.

Family Lawyer: Lucy, Esq., Lawyer replied 6 years ago
It really is an awful situation. I hope it will be over soon.
Lucy, Esq.
Lucy, Esq., Lawyer
Category: Family Law
Satisfied Customers: 30,602
Experience: Attorney with experience in family law.
Verified
Lucy, Esq. and 87 other Family Law Specialists are ready to help you
Ask your own question now
Customer reply replied 6 years ago
thank you
Ask Lucy, Esq. Your Own Question
Lucy, Esq.
Lucy, Esq.
Lucy, Esq., Lawyer
Category: Family Law
Satisfied Customers: 30,602
30,602 Satisfied Customers
Experience: Attorney with experience in family law.

Lucy, Esq. is online now

A new question is answered every 9 seconds

How JustAnswer works:

  • Ask an ExpertExperts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional AnswerVia email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site. Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction GuaranteeRate the answer you receive.

JustAnswer in the News:

Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

Not only did he answer my Michigan divorce question but was also able to help me out with it, too. I have since won my legal case on this matter and thank you so much for it.

LeeMichigan

Mr. Kaplun clearly had an exceptional understanding of the issue and was able to explain it concisely. I would recommend JustAnswer to anyone. Great service that lives up to its promises!

Gary B.Edmond, OK

My Expert was fast and seemed to have the answer to my taser question at the tips of her fingers. Communication was excellent. I left feeling confident in her answer.

EricRedwood City, CA

I am very pleased with JustAnswer as a place to go for divorce or criminal law knowledge and insight.

MichaelWichita, KS

PaulMJD helped me with questions I had regarding an urgent legal matter. His answers were excellent.

Three H.Houston, TX

Anne was extremely helpful. Her information put me in the right direction for action that kept me legal, possible saving me a ton of money in the future. Thank you again, Anne!!

ElaineAtlanta, GA

It worked great. I had the facts and I presented them to my ex-landlord and she folded and returned my deposit. The 50 bucks I spent with you solved my problem.

TonyApopka, FL

< Previous | Next >

Meet the Experts:

Ely

Ely

Counselor at Law

11,844 satisfied customers

Private practice with focus on family, criminal, PI, consumer protection, and business consultation.

LawTalk

LawTalk

Attorney and Counselor at Law

9,025 satisfied customers

30 years legal experience. I remain current in Family Law through regular continuing education.

Dimitry K., Esq.

Dimitry K., Esq.

Attorney

7,856 satisfied customers

I provide family and divorce law advice to my clients in my firm.

Tina

Tina

Lawyer

6,562 satisfied customers

JD, 17 years legal experience including family law

P. Simmons

P. Simmons

Lawyer

3,360 satisfied customers

16 yrs. of experience including family law.

Barrister

Barrister

Lawyer

3,346 satisfied customers

Attorney with 17 years experience

RobertJDFL

RobertJDFL

Lawyer

2,754 satisfied customers

Experienced in multiple areas of the law.

< Previous | Next >

Related Family Law Questions
If a parent does not pay child support and is behind over
If a parent does not pay child support and is behind over $2500, do they still get visitation rights? … read more
Legal Eagle
Legal Eagle
Attorney
Doctoral Degree
5,972 satisfied customers
This is about a child support modification that was
This is about a child support modification that was initiated by another party. The other party asked to transfer the case to a different county in Texas, I e-filed what I titled Custodial Parent's re… read more
Ray
Ray
Lawyer
Doctoral Degree
30,268 satisfied customers
Florida child support question. Florida. It's regarding
It's regarding payment continueing after child has turned 18 and has already graduated.… read more
Lucy, Esq.
Lucy, Esq.
Lawyer
30,602 satisfied customers
Is it possible to get child custody with a good reason if
Is it possible to get child custody with a good reason if you are behind on child support? I am going through divorce-custody. I pay a good amount 1200 a month I just can't afford what the DA ordered.… read more
LegalKnowledge
LegalKnowledge
Juris Doctor
27,514 satisfied customers
In regards to child custody and the child lives with the
in regards to child custody and the child lives with the mother in another state, does one have to file for a custody agreement in that state or can one file where they live? … read more
LegalKnowledge
LegalKnowledge
Juris Doctor
27,514 satisfied customers
My son owes $25,000 in back child support, the mother has
My son owes $25,000 in back child support, the mother has never had anything to do with the kids, the Court has stopped his payments but how does he clear the money owed, he has had sole custody for 1… read more
Olivia Kent
Olivia Kent
Managing Partner
Doctoral Degree
1,467 satisfied customers
Do grandparents have visitation rights the mother and her
Do grandparents have visitation rights the mother and her daughter lived with us for 4 years and also the 3 year old who is our biological? … read more
jb156200
jb156200
Associate Attorney
Doctoral Degree
416 satisfied customers
The mother of my children took me off child support when i
The mother of my children took me off child support when i living with her. I moved out to find a better job and so that i could be closer to my job. I want to know if it permanent. … read more
LegalGems
LegalGems
Juris Doctorate
10,224 satisfied customers
In a child custody visitation schedule, can a judge from
In a child custody visitation schedule, can a judge from Florida override a judge's decision in New Jersey when it clearly states in New Jersey that he is to have no unsupervised visitation. He lives … read more
Ray
Ray
Lawyer
Doctoral Degree
30,268 satisfied customers
Was just wondering the specifics of visitation at mothers
Was just wondering the specifics of visitation at mothers discretion … read more
FamilyAttorney
FamilyAttorney
Appellate attorney & former trial lawyer
JD
1,446 satisfied customers
Does child support have to be paid in Colorado if there is
Does child support have to be paid in Colorado if there is no court order, parenting plan in place, and the custodial parent is refusing to allow visitation even though there is a visitation order in … read more
ScottyMacEsq
ScottyMacEsq
Doctoral Degree
17,094 satisfied customers
I need to write up a child custody agreement. Mother lives
I need to write up a child custody agreement. Mother lives in Costa Rica (she is here visiting now) and Father is US Citizen. Child is 16yo not born in USA but were are actively trying to secure her p… read more
PaulmoJD
PaulmoJD
Attorney At Law
Doctoral Degree
106 satisfied customers
My question is about child support case,and visitation; my
My question is about child support case,and visitation; my daughters dad never keeps her for his visitation never takes her for 30 days in July and doesn't do any of his financial obligations. I do ge… read more
Ray
Ray
Lawyer
Doctoral Degree
30,268 satisfied customers
Child support, il, searching, contacted for child support.
child support JA: Because family law varies from place to place, can you tell me what state this is in? Customer: il JA: Have you talked to a lawyer yet? Customer: searching JA: Anything else you want… read more
Phillips Esq.
Phillips Esq.
Attorney
Juris Doctor
17,998 satisfied customers
I am trying to figure out child custody for child support,
I am trying to figure out child custody for child support … read more
Gerald, Esq
Gerald, Esq
Juris Doctor
3,040 satisfied customers
I have a child support question. I filed for child support
Hello , I have a child support question . I filed for child support back in 2015 , now the court is set up for august 16. My question is can I cancel my child support process , and can biological fath… read more
Alex Esquire
Alex Esquire
Managing Attorney
Doctoral Degree
153 satisfied customers
I have a question about child custody/ visitation in MI, My
I have a question about child custody/ visitation in MI … read more
LegalKnowledge
LegalKnowledge
Juris Doctor
27,514 satisfied customers
Child custody and parent rights question. unmarried with 3
child custody and parent rights question. unmarried with 3 month old child. Child's father keeps entering my home w\out permission and states he has a right to see his child, He stops at all hours of … read more
FamilyAttorney
FamilyAttorney
Appellate attorney & former trial lawyer
JD
1,446 satisfied customers

DISCLAIMER: Answers from Experts on JustAnswer are not substitutes for the advice of an attorney. JustAnswer is a public forum and questions and responses are not private or confidential or protected by the attorney-client privilege. The Expert above is not your attorney, and the response above is not legal advice. You should not read this response to propose specific action or address specific circumstances, but only to give you a sense of general principles of law that might affect the situation you describe. Application of these general principles to particular circumstances must be done by a lawyer who has spoken with you in confidence, learned all relevant information, and explored various options. Before acting on these general principles, you should hire a lawyer licensed to practice law in the jurisdiction to which your question pertains.

The responses above are from individual Experts, not JustAnswer. The site and services are provided “as is”. To view the verified credential of an Expert, click on the “Verified” symbol in the Expert’s profile. This site is not for emergency questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals. Please carefully read the Terms of Service (last updated February 8, 2012).

DISCLAIMER: Answers from Experts on JustAnswer are not substitutes for the advice of an attorney. JustAnswer is a public forum and questions and responses are not private or confidential or protected by the attorney-client privilege. The Expert above is not your attorney, and the response above is not legal advice. You should not read this response to propose specific action or address specific circumstances, but only to give you a sense of general principles of law that might affect the situation you describe. Application of these general principles to particular circumstances must be done by a lawyer who has spoken with you in confidence, learned all relevant information, and explored various options. Before acting on these general principles, you should hire a lawyer licensed to practice law in the jurisdiction to which your question pertains.

The responses above are from individual Experts, not JustAnswer. The site and services are provided “as is”. To view the verified credential of an Expert, click on the “Verified” symbol in the Expert’s profile. This site is not for emergency questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals. Please carefully read the Terms of Service (last updated February 8, 2012).

Show MoreShow Less

Ask Your Question

x