First, check out the following website from the US State Dept. It will probably provide all of the information you are seeking.
You would be well-advised to borrow the money, if necessary, to pay-off the back child support (doing so by sending payment to the state’s child support collection agency) so as to clear the record. If you have to owe somebody money for past due child support, better to owe it to a bank rather than to the state.
Also, regarding the money you paid directly to the mother: If you did so at a time when there was a child support order in place, and the mother is refusing to consent to the recognizing the payments made as being child support and authorizing the state to give you appropriate credit on your child support payment record, you may have legal recourse. You really need to be in touch with a Texas lawyer (assuming that the state that in enforcing the support order
) to assist in the process. Trying to do this from afar will be extremely frustrating (as you are already discovering) and most likely unsuccessful. Keep in mind that the state’s child support enforcement agency is really a huge state-operated debt collection agency. You are the debtor, and viewed as a deadbeat debtor at the moment. The state’s debt collection agency is not gong to be sympathetic to you or your situation, and probably not very courteous either. Most likely, if anything positive is going to get done, it will require the assistance of a lawyer who is work on your behalf.
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