Is there a standard or socially-acceptable name for the
Is there a standard or socially-acceptable name for the grandchildren of a common-law husband (offspring from his first marriage, dissolved long ago) from the perspective of the current common-law wife? They are in Illinois which does not recognize common-law marriages so they call the parties "Paramours". Since there is no legal or blood relationship between the Paramour / Common-Law Wife and the bio-grandchildren of her Paramour / Common-law husband, I have checked with the Certified Legal Experts over JustAnswers.com already who advise that there is no name in legal lexicon to describe that relationship. But as the Ex-Husband siding with the 3 children (now adults) produced from the Paramour / Common-law wife's first and only legal marriage (pre-dating co-habitation with the Paramour / Common-law Husband), we find it objectionable when the Ex-Wife / Mother calls this offspring her "Grandchildren" or even "Step-grandchildren" because they are not legally either. It is offensive to the honor I bestowed upon this woman (and that she bestowed upon me) in marriage, and offensive to our children who will one day likely be the bearers of her TRUE grandchildren. We've come up with some humorous titles we could give this offspring from the Ex's / Mom's perspective...e.g. instead of "Grandchildren" she could call them her "GrandPosers" (smiles). Or instead of Granddaughter or Grandson, she could call them her "Grand-NOT-er" and "Gran-NONE" (smiles) But the Ex / Mom would likely not adopt those so we take this to the Etiquette World to see if there is an appropriate, socially-acceptable, and offensive-to-none moniker or nick name we can all title this offspring, besides just, "Hey YOU!" (smiles) Using their first name only has been suggested but when we don't recognize that name, giving their relationship to the Ex / Mom is helpful so we know who she is talking about. Can you suggest one or more titles or names we can use to keep these entities straight in our understanding of "Who the HELL is Grand Baby Phil...?" (smiles) And you can have fun in your suggestion of names as well although at the favor of at least one serious / acceptable-to-all title is requested.